What did I do wrong? sorry, I just lost my emotional control....?

this is long. i have to say. sorry....





So I know I'm not the best of guys. I'm smart, fairly well-off, not too bad-looking, not too boring, a bit unusual (put my foot in my mouth often) but nothing bad....





anyway, there's this girl. with a long distance boyfriend. at the time (and even now), i'm not exactly sure where they stand, but they look good together imho.





so when i first met her a few months ago at an art museum, things seemed to go very well. a week later, we're talking, and she invites me to a concert...then invite her to surfing...exchange after exchange (fails) since our schedules are opposite.





Since she's new and social, was she just being friendly?





...but finally, I get a time with her on "Sunday. No more rainchecks," and she says, "Ok but I get to decide where." We have a good time at the house party, although it's difficult to talk with her personally..(lots of girls around me), but at the very end, she just mentions her long distance boyfriend, and by that time, I'm tired and frustrated for trying to talk with her, and I've been there and I don't want to be hurt, so I just say, "well I'm done here" and about to leave...she says, "I'll walk you out," but I cut her off with, "You don't need to walk me out."





so I felt like an asshole; drove back, said thanks over cell phone, tried inviting her to coffee....anyway, a few weeks pass, we're still exchanging some texts, so we're at lunch now. and for w/e reason, she wants to have lunch with me (texting me at 130 am), but she'll try to put other guys in it. i try to have a 1-on-1 conversation with her, but it's just no good.





so another week passes by, and i'm about to just give up, so i'm like, "F-it. i'll jsut ask her to the movies." ...she says she's going out with friends....but the next day, she texts me if I'd like a ride to the airport (out of the blue).





so imean, taht's a good sign, right? i mean, if you didn't like someone, would you text them like that?





to cut to the chase, we ended not meeting up (forgot cell phone w/e), but I asked if she'd like to be picked up, said yes, picked her up at the gate, had breakfast, laughed, joked, lingered around her apartment,


and that entire week, text volume is skyrocketing.





thursday we're texting...and then I ask if she wants to walk back to the parking lot. she says, "go home silly," ...i push some more, and she says, "sorry dude. don't wanna. g'night."





next day i ask her what's wrong, and she says, "hanging out with you is stressful and uncomfortable. leave me be!" I think she's joking so I make a joke, she says, "leave me alone."





it's been about a week, and i have left her alone. most of the time, when I'm not stressed, i'm confident. now, did i do something wrong? did i misinterpret her actions? was she just trying to be friendly but didn't know how to say no? am i trying to shoot too high here?





normally i don't give a d*mn, but i thought she was the right person.


people have said the following:


(a) she's psycho. don't go there.


(b) leave her alone. you're psycho (but she started it!)


(c) she's confused. she has a long distance boyfriend. she doens't want to cheat, but she knows you like her now and she knows she may like you too...


(d) you totally misinterpreted all her text messages and invites.





which is it!?!? sorry for the rant. so ready for 2009.


yes, i know she had a boyfriend, and i wouldn't have expected anything, but she started this entire mess (and i guess ended it)....|||Take the mature route on this one.





Tell her you are concerned there may have been a misunderstanding. Tell her how you understood what she said/texted, and ask her if your interpretation was correct. If it wasn't correct, ask her directly what she meant.





It's the only way you're going to know for sure.





Right now, you're operating without all the necessary information. Once you have the information you need (i.e., what she meant to communicate to you), you can proceed.





Until then, all you have is a guess. You don't want to base a potential relationship/friendship on a guess, particularly if that guess just happens to be way off base.





~Dr. B.~|||She has a B/F. Why waste your time? She was probably just lonely.|||Stop already and save your dignity. You are embarassing yourself by pursuing this braud. Go to the local bar, get drunk, screw some random woman, and climb back on that horse.|||this is all very confussing and contradictory.


I would, if I was you, just be the friend she dosent appear to need right at the moment, like you said, she has a long distance boyfriend, stay in the background and see how that plays out, perhaps he just needed a bit of company, but between you the theatre, the airport, the friends house, txting constantly, I think you both need a break. Put the ball back in her court, if she contacts you, tell her straight that you like her, and would like a little more than just a friendship type relationship, if she feels the same the great, if she doesnt, then to put it simply...move on. Good luck to you.|||I think she's probably feeling very conflicted. She likes you, but has a BF, and doesn't want to be THAT kind of girl, who cheats cause the BF is not around every minute. It makes her feel bad that she even let it get that far, and she needs to back off.|||Wow, well done for hanging in there as long as you have!





She has a boyfriend, and it should have stopped right there. Stop pursuing her. It sounds like she only wants to meet when it suits her, she playing hot and cold and I think she is also playing you for a fool. You're too nice for her, move on and find someone who deserves you :)





I don't think it was meant to be with this one.|||dude im sorry for your experiences and some girls are like that i've been there and its not worth it it's not you it's her. she a phsyco b*tch you have tried and she has pushed you around instead of being a nervous wreck and multiemotional you should forget her women like that play with men as if there toys and your not worth it you sound like a nice guy not wanting to hurt a girl so tell her to f*ck out of your life. you'll find someone oneday you really like.