Here is my dream:
1. I was going for a hike in the woods a we were in a small group of people maybe only about 5 or 6 and we were following our group leader (he was like a park ranger or something!). There was a sense of slight urgency as we hiked but I can't quite put my finger on it... the urgency was due to a combination of the threat of bad weather and diminishing sunlight! I can remember the weather being overcast and grayish!
2. We were hiking up a slope when ahead of us there was a wildfire! it was a big raging wild fire! Trees were burning down and animals were trying to escape! The weird thing was that despite this danger it was still relatively safe for us to continue hiking, because the fire was burning in a manner that traveled away from us! To put it another way, the fire was moving forwards away from us and so all we had to do was follow it and follow the path of destruction and ashes that it left behind!
3. What was also weird was that behind us there was no fire but there was the threat of rain... At one stage I remember looking behind me and noticed that there was water running towards us... it was as if there was rain somewhere in the distance that created a stream of water that was gradually trickling towards us.
4. So what I felt was that we had to hike in a very controlled manner! We couldn't go too fast because of the fire ahead of us and we couldn't go to slowly because of the possible flood and wetness!! (BTW - this strikes me as a profound contrast of symbols! Fire and Water!!)
5. At one stage I noticed that there was a dinosaur (a big one with a long thin neck) that was in the fire being burned... I saw it run towards me as it tried to escape the fire... it managed to escape as it ran towards the water/gray weather section that was behind me!
6. There was one other crucial element in this dream! But this is where it gets confusing and the time line of the dream gets all mixed up (like a Quentin Tarantino movie)... after that episode that I described above... my dream goes back to the stage at which we as a group were about to embark on our hike!! Back to the point were we were getting ready to go for this hike!
7. I remember the weather being sunny and bright! I remember choosing the right pair of shoes for my hike! And I also remember a former girlfriend of mine being present! (a former flame if you will! LOL! - actually in real life our relationship was unfortunately very fleeting and short!)
8. She was part of this group, but my romantic feelings towards her were skeptical! It was like the early stages of something where each person is scoping out the potential of their friendship turning into a relationship!!
THE END!
Anyway if you bothered to read all of that then I thank you immensely! Please share your thoughts! and help me understand this! Thank you!|||try www.numberslady.com|||nobody has ever successfully interpreted dreams|||Hmm it sounds like an interesting dream .
Maybe you were just in a state of peace
and calmness .
Also about the Dinosaur thing maybe your
imagination was also running as well :)
And for your former girlfriend , maybe it tells
you still have feelings towards her ?
I am not an Expert but I am just stating my opinions on
how I view this :)
I hope I somehow helped . OH yes , also maybe
it also means you should take a nice walk ? :)|||Hiking in a dream represents aligning with nature and doing what is natural to you in your waking life. But you had some kind of guide which means you are following someone else's path in your life. There was a sense of urgency because of a threat of bad weather which is a "stormy" situation in your waking life and diminishing sunlight which is your loss of insight. The overcast condition is a state of oncoming sadness or lack of enlightenment.
The wildfire indicates that you have lost complete control in some aspect of your life. It was burning ahead of you which means that you are just one step away from feeling its effects. You walked through the burned areas which means that you are living your life in the wake of emotional devastation of some sort. You followed this path because you have, on some level, learned to get used to this condition of your life.
Behind you was the rain, or your search for new insights about your life. It threatened a flood behind you which means you are caught somewhere between turmoil and enlightenment. The two are controlling how you "hike" through your waking life.
The dinosaur represents ideas you may have that no longer serve any purpose for your greater good. It was burned up in the fire which means you are attempting to change your views about ideas you have had in the past.
Then you returned to the beginning which was a better beginning than the first. Bright and sunny means that your mind is starting to become clearer. You want to begin again with a fresh perspective.
The girl in the dream doesn't necessarily represent herself, but maybe the way she made you feel in that short relationship is the way you would like to feel in the present time.
This dream is telling you that you are grappling with some terrible problems you may have had in the past and you are trying to move forward in a natural way, but you are struggling between the past and a brighter future. You are trying to eliminate all the ideas (dinosaurs) that kept you trapped in the past, and you want to move forward but you may fear more turmoil ahead. You are attempting to start over (with a new hike) in your life with a clearer perspective. The girl is there in the dream to remind you of the possibilities of feeling great about your life, and the clear weather at the end is a very positive sign that the proverbial clouds are moving out inside your mind. This was a very positive dream for you.
Friday, December 9, 2011
How can I encourage my 2 cats to get along?
I have had my one cat for about 5 years now. He was a starving stray I found at a park when he was still an older kitten. He has a great life now and is an indoor/outdoor cat that comes in and out as he pleases day and night. He likes being out a lot in warm weather but stays inside most of the time during the cold months.
Now another stray has come to my home and I adopted this one too. It's also a male. My other male is neutered and I'm going to be getting my new one neutered very soon. The new one looks to be fully grown even though when he first came I believe he was just growing out of still being a kitten.
At first the two of them seem to tolerate one another. Now it goes back and forth as to who dislikes who. Both come in and out as they please. They keep their distance most of the time outside even though I have seen them lying around just a few feet apart just resting comfortably every now and then. I have seen or hear them fighting off and on. It never lasts very long, just little fights in which they make a lot of noise. I have been checking them for injuries and do not see any. The one is pure white and it would be easy to spot anything on him. Sometimes one will start it and sometimes the other will start it. It varies. If they pass each other when both want to come in, they will usually growl and hiss at one another. I don't know if they would actually fight if I left them alone or not when they do that since I always make them stop this behavior when they do it around me.
I can tolerate the situation right now because it is warm weather and both want out most of the time, but I worry what is going to happen when it gets colder and both of them have to come inside the house and be in close quarters with one another. Do you have any ideas of what I can do to get these cats to get along much better with one another. Several cat owners told me to just let them work it out on their own, but I don't want one of them dominating and controlling everything while the other ends up hiding in fear. Any help would be appreciated.|||it will settle down a lot when the other one is neutered. They is a lot of peer fighting doing on whre the younger one is trying to get one over on your existing cat.
Feed them together and provide treats so that they associate being together with nice things.|||They were both strays and its hard to do any kind of animal introducing, them being at an older age just makes things more difficult. Neutering might help, but the proper way to introduce cats is by putting the new on into the bathroom for a couple of weeks until they get used to the smells of the house. You going in there and providing them with food and love will help them to bond to you. Other animals in the house will meet each other safely, under the door. It is easier to do this when the cats are indoor cats, but because yours come and go as they please, there is really nothing you can do.|||it is because your old cat is used to the attention and Ur new cat is taking some... therefore they will fight let them fight it out if they start getting intense then separate the fight and they will eventually get along... also make sure they both get the same attention|||When two animals don't like each other they just don't like each other they will learn to settle their differences if not your going to have to get rid of one.|||You need to read Pamela Johnson-Bennett's books about cat behavior. Start with Think Like a Cat and Starting From Scratch. Here is her website also: www.catbehaviorassociates.com
Now another stray has come to my home and I adopted this one too. It's also a male. My other male is neutered and I'm going to be getting my new one neutered very soon. The new one looks to be fully grown even though when he first came I believe he was just growing out of still being a kitten.
At first the two of them seem to tolerate one another. Now it goes back and forth as to who dislikes who. Both come in and out as they please. They keep their distance most of the time outside even though I have seen them lying around just a few feet apart just resting comfortably every now and then. I have seen or hear them fighting off and on. It never lasts very long, just little fights in which they make a lot of noise. I have been checking them for injuries and do not see any. The one is pure white and it would be easy to spot anything on him. Sometimes one will start it and sometimes the other will start it. It varies. If they pass each other when both want to come in, they will usually growl and hiss at one another. I don't know if they would actually fight if I left them alone or not when they do that since I always make them stop this behavior when they do it around me.
I can tolerate the situation right now because it is warm weather and both want out most of the time, but I worry what is going to happen when it gets colder and both of them have to come inside the house and be in close quarters with one another. Do you have any ideas of what I can do to get these cats to get along much better with one another. Several cat owners told me to just let them work it out on their own, but I don't want one of them dominating and controlling everything while the other ends up hiding in fear. Any help would be appreciated.|||it will settle down a lot when the other one is neutered. They is a lot of peer fighting doing on whre the younger one is trying to get one over on your existing cat.
Feed them together and provide treats so that they associate being together with nice things.|||They were both strays and its hard to do any kind of animal introducing, them being at an older age just makes things more difficult. Neutering might help, but the proper way to introduce cats is by putting the new on into the bathroom for a couple of weeks until they get used to the smells of the house. You going in there and providing them with food and love will help them to bond to you. Other animals in the house will meet each other safely, under the door. It is easier to do this when the cats are indoor cats, but because yours come and go as they please, there is really nothing you can do.|||it is because your old cat is used to the attention and Ur new cat is taking some... therefore they will fight let them fight it out if they start getting intense then separate the fight and they will eventually get along... also make sure they both get the same attention|||When two animals don't like each other they just don't like each other they will learn to settle their differences if not your going to have to get rid of one.|||You need to read Pamela Johnson-Bennett's books about cat behavior. Start with Think Like a Cat and Starting From Scratch. Here is her website also: www.catbehaviorassociates.com
What is the message of this story in your opinion?
The Window"
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.|||In my opinion...I believe you should never have hatred for anyone. Only God knew the other man’s intention. He could not see what was really in the man’s heart but he became envious for example:
Feeling, expressing, or characterised by envy: "At times he regarded the wounded soldiers in an envious way.... He wished that he, too, had a wound, a red badge of courage" (Stephen Crane).
He wanted that what he had and could not take it anymore, eventually leading to the other persons death. It also come in the category of jealousy which is:
1. suspicious or fearful of being displaced by a rival a jealous lover
2. (often post positive and full by of) resentful (of) or vindictive (towards), esp through envy a child jealous of his brother.
I can understand his frustration but he should have been patient and god always helps the patient ones. He should now turn to repentance and ask god to forgive him for his sinful act of envy which led to a human beings death.
In the end for all his efforts of seeing through the window “he faced a blank wall.”|||What a beautiful poignant story.
Did you write this yourself?
If you did, you have a talent.|||Personally, I think the narrative's use of negative space, or 'downbeat dialogue,' is used to represent the duality of man--an interpretation reinforced by the thematic mirroring of symbolism split betwixt the two main characters. The Window itself represents a character in the third, an old Italian technique known as "del trio en muerdo," or the 'dead third' as the inanimate third object that represents a third character is often called. The Window offers a glimpse in the eldritch past of one of the men, the blind man recalling the vainglory of days long gone. His sins boil to the surface and he uses his compatriot as a sounding board, a priest of sorts, on which to unburden his dying soul. For the other man, the Window represents a glimpse into an arabesque future, where anything is possible including a new beginning for his life (as shown in the metaphor of playing children). However, the reality of his terminal situation is revealed to him only after his foil's departure, the bricks in the window each representing a different, individual regret of his for an action not taken: a love not loved, a god not followed, an assignment not completed by himself but by others for though the bricks in the wall were of his own making, the wall itself was built, and reinforced, by a society determined to keep him caged in willful ignorance.
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.|||In my opinion...I believe you should never have hatred for anyone. Only God knew the other man’s intention. He could not see what was really in the man’s heart but he became envious for example:
Feeling, expressing, or characterised by envy: "At times he regarded the wounded soldiers in an envious way.... He wished that he, too, had a wound, a red badge of courage" (Stephen Crane).
He wanted that what he had and could not take it anymore, eventually leading to the other persons death. It also come in the category of jealousy which is:
1. suspicious or fearful of being displaced by a rival a jealous lover
2. (often post positive and full by of) resentful (of) or vindictive (towards), esp through envy a child jealous of his brother.
I can understand his frustration but he should have been patient and god always helps the patient ones. He should now turn to repentance and ask god to forgive him for his sinful act of envy which led to a human beings death.
In the end for all his efforts of seeing through the window “he faced a blank wall.”|||What a beautiful poignant story.
Did you write this yourself?
If you did, you have a talent.|||Personally, I think the narrative's use of negative space, or 'downbeat dialogue,' is used to represent the duality of man--an interpretation reinforced by the thematic mirroring of symbolism split betwixt the two main characters. The Window itself represents a character in the third, an old Italian technique known as "del trio en muerdo," or the 'dead third' as the inanimate third object that represents a third character is often called. The Window offers a glimpse in the eldritch past of one of the men, the blind man recalling the vainglory of days long gone. His sins boil to the surface and he uses his compatriot as a sounding board, a priest of sorts, on which to unburden his dying soul. For the other man, the Window represents a glimpse into an arabesque future, where anything is possible including a new beginning for his life (as shown in the metaphor of playing children). However, the reality of his terminal situation is revealed to him only after his foil's departure, the bricks in the window each representing a different, individual regret of his for an action not taken: a love not loved, a god not followed, an assignment not completed by himself but by others for though the bricks in the wall were of his own making, the wall itself was built, and reinforced, by a society determined to keep him caged in willful ignorance.
did i write a goods story?
are assignment is to write a story that has some type of moral or tone. please comment
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
Moral of the story:
The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.
The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about|||Fantastic story!!!!!!!!!!!|||I think it's really good. It kept my interest the whole time (which isn't very easy to accomplish) having no more than a 3 second attention span i have to say this was a good Story.....;%26gt;|||I love it, but if the man not by the window can't hear the parade how can he hear the window man talking? :)|||Think it's pretty okay. I can see where the style is coming from. Why don't you use names? That might make this more specific.
Have you read Flannery O'Connor? That's one type of moral fiction that is very powerful. This is one of her stories.
http://pegasus.cc.ucf.edu/~surette/goodm鈥?/a>
I suggest you read it first then read on...
It's not quite a perfect fit with yours, but things you might think about:
Notice how here the real names of the characters take a back seat to their roles, which gives the story something of the effect you're striving for. And yet everything is so clear to the mind's eye/ear/whatever.
How well the scenes and people are described, and how the characters' mannerisms flesh them out into real people. We can really see and feel them- and she does this in so little space. And the little details really help make it seem real. You'll notice this particularly at the end with details like the shirt.
How she communicates emotion through an objective narrator. This makes the reader notice less that the narrator is guiding the reader towards some particular reaction.
This piece may be good for a spoken presentation, but if the people it's meant for are going to be actually reading it, trying to pick up O'Connor's skill set may be useful.
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
Moral of the story:
The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.
The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about|||Fantastic story!!!!!!!!!!!|||I think it's really good. It kept my interest the whole time (which isn't very easy to accomplish) having no more than a 3 second attention span i have to say this was a good Story.....;%26gt;|||I love it, but if the man not by the window can't hear the parade how can he hear the window man talking? :)|||Think it's pretty okay. I can see where the style is coming from. Why don't you use names? That might make this more specific.
Have you read Flannery O'Connor? That's one type of moral fiction that is very powerful. This is one of her stories.
http://pegasus.cc.ucf.edu/~surette/goodm鈥?/a>
I suggest you read it first then read on...
It's not quite a perfect fit with yours, but things you might think about:
Notice how here the real names of the characters take a back seat to their roles, which gives the story something of the effect you're striving for. And yet everything is so clear to the mind's eye/ear/whatever.
How well the scenes and people are described, and how the characters' mannerisms flesh them out into real people. We can really see and feel them- and she does this in so little space. And the little details really help make it seem real. You'll notice this particularly at the end with details like the shirt.
How she communicates emotion through an objective narrator. This makes the reader notice less that the narrator is guiding the reader towards some particular reaction.
This piece may be good for a spoken presentation, but if the people it's meant for are going to be actually reading it, trying to pick up O'Connor's skill set may be useful.
Constant lies from ex almost killed my reputation?
Long story short I was with this guy for 2 years. he was mentally abusive, controlling, a major cheater and I dumped him for good when I found out he had statutory rape charges and a bunch of other stuff and he wouldnt leave me alone, he would come to my work and to my house and stay parked outside all night so I got a restraining order. He was mad b/c I found a new boyfriend so he blogged a whole website about me saying bad rumors like that im a prostitute and just stupid stuff like that. Well, two months later I go to a big party with my boyfriend who I haven't seen in a while since he lives out of state and my friends and I were talking about long distance r-ships. They were just saying how some work out and some can't and my bf said "Well its good I have a gf who I can trust to live far away from me" and these 2 girls that I dont even know, have only met once for a second, they are young girls who my ex had cheated with.. one of them said infront of everyone, "Why dont you tell him about all the guys you slept with for money and drugs?" I was shocked by what she said and resisted w everything in me the urge toknock her out. I just laughed and said, "Really and who told you that, (exes name) who picked you up at the playground?" She didn't really say anything and I told her to leave and they did b/c everyone pretty much kicked them out. My bf didn't care ab the comment and I was really upset b/c of how it would make me look and he just hugged me and said he doesn't care what she said that he knows im telling the truth and that its all lies. Why do I have to put up with this immature behaviour from a bitter ex? Now I have alot of ppl who barely kno me thinking all this stuff about me... :/|||this sounds like a terrible situation. i know its hard, but who cares what those other people think..they dont know you and dont let them get to you. people in this word are too quick to judge something they know nothing about, thats their downfall. dont let it be yours. as for the ex i agree with the slander charges:)|||Well, this sounds really rough, just ignore him, just try to be the same as always, these people barely know you, be yourself, and they should change how they feel quickly. To me, after hearing that, you still seem like a nice person, keep your head up and just be yourself, sorry if I make no sense. -.-|||I'm so sorry all that happened. :( That sounds really tough, well your new boyfriend sounds kind. I say just hope that it will wear away after time, and if its a blog, you can try to get it shut down. I'm not sure how, but thats a hate forum and that might be illegal. Good luck though, sorry this happened!|||just ignore it and dont let it get to you.
if they see it doesnt bother you, they wont pursue it..
itll die off soon :)|||slander is againt the law. If you feel strongly.. get an attorney and sue to jerk. It will suit his mouth and his wallet.|||Sounds like you hang out with a trashy bunch hon.
What is at parties?alcohol and drugs.
Who was at the party? 2 hoochies your ex had cheated with.
Think about it.Why WOULDN'T they have believed your ex?Get a copy of the things he said online print it off and go to the police,they can "have a talk with him".You can also take him to court for this.
if they see it doesnt bother you, they wont pursue it..
itll die off soon :)|||slander is againt the law. If you feel strongly.. get an attorney and sue to jerk. It will suit his mouth and his wallet.|||Sounds like you hang out with a trashy bunch hon.
What is at parties?alcohol and drugs.
Who was at the party? 2 hoochies your ex had cheated with.
Think about it.Why WOULDN'T they have believed your ex?Get a copy of the things he said online print it off and go to the police,they can "have a talk with him".You can also take him to court for this.
Problem with Girlfriend's Parents 10 points best answer!!?
Please bear with my story, so my Girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we are in love, happy, and want to spend the rest of our lives with each other. Well anyways her and I have gone well through our long distance relationship as she is a freshman in college and I'm still in high school. We would talk everyday and I would visit her everytime she gets back. While she is off in college, I have stayed close to her family by helping her parents and watching her siblings everyday after school. Her parents and I used to be so close that I'd go places with her mother (shopping, massages) and help her dad around the house. Well last month when she returned for Thanksgiving, I stayed over at her house everyday she was there. My parents were okay with me staying but decided the last day that I had to come home because my parents were fighting with each other. They called her parents and her dad ended up taking me home. When we arrived, my dad talked to hers and said that I was grounded because my mom was angry with me. My mom's anger was short-lived however and I was not grounded. But when I tried talking to my girlfriend's parents, they refused talking to me, questioning that something suspicious was going on. My girlfriend got discouraged and I felt bad so I asked my dad if I could see her in college. I ended up going without my mother knowing and my girlfriend and I shared the most amazing weekend of our lives. However after returning home, her parents found out and were extremely frustrated to the point they would talk to my family finally. Well my dad refused to admit he gave me permission and her parents now think my family is all a bunch of liars and they don't believe a word I say because I didn't tell them or my mom. My girlfriend is 18 and I'm 17 and I only had the intent of seeing her so that we could be happy and spend time. Her parents were angry for not telling them but they wouldn't talk to me even if I tried asking them prior to going. So now, her parents are trying to break us up and threatening her college fund and shunning her from the family if she does not break up with me. My girlfriend and I also can't talk for three months according to her parent's wishes. I do admit what I did was wrong but I had no intention of any harm. Her parents have refused to let me come over or my parents to consult with them. It was to the point where they once gave me the key to there house, and now they stated they have changed the locks. They are controlling everything my girlfriend does and she believes they are doing it because they love her and are protecting her and also she has no choice but to listen or she can't go back to college in another city. Just yesterday, she was allowed to hang out with her close friends of 7 years and her parents knew them well. Her best friends are in college and make wonderful grades, they are great people. Well anyways when they hung out, my girlfriend's dad was stalking them and was angry because they left to go get a bite to eat and play at the park. Now her own best friends aren't allowed to see her anymore with her parents saying that they are not worthy enough to be their daughter's friends. Also, my girlfriend's dream job is to be in journalism or teach linguistics and her parents want her to become a doctor just like them. It is winter break now and her whole family controls her and the worst part is that her parents threaten her and make her feel guilty to the point where she is scared and has to believe what they are saying. My girlfriend says that it is best for us to wait until the future when we are financially independent to try and be together but until then we can't see each other until I go to her college in a year and a half, and I can't talk to her for 3 months. I don't know what to do. I was really close to her parents, I made all A's and have wonderful grades, I'm on track to wanting to become a dentist as her parents want her to marry a doctor. I don't know what to do and her friends now are worried and upset at her parents because of their control. Any advice please?? thank you for bearing with my story by the way :P|||I would suggest since you seem like an Intelligent and great boyfriend to this girl to wait things out... Let the parents cool off and everything will work out.. Seem nice and pleasant every time you can come over..also show them respect when you see them. Shake the fathers hand with a firm grip... Parents want the best for their children to be successful in this world and if they find someone unfit or distracting to their little princess they will shun them.|||Do whats best for you! your not or shouldn't be living you life to please them.|||your 17 she 18, explain to the parents. your about to become an adult they shouldn't need to watch over you like a little kid anymore. explain how you feel about that to them and maybe they will lay off a little. almost all the time when it come to that point in life if your dating someone older or younger than you and your 17 or 18 (in your case 17 dating someone older) these things happen when your starting to go to different school's try that all wait it out until you can see her again you sound madly in love and same with her so just try anything to make it together with each other.|||it simple all you have to do is write them this whole story...
and watch as they commit suicide....jkJK
just live life and relaxe everything will settle down slow....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7JPuVcBS鈥?/a>|||Sounds like you have done pretty much everything right, if you really love this girl and see her in your future, also knowing that she wants that too, then you should go to their house or ask the girl herself like maybe through text or call her, and just ask if you can sit down with her parents and talk to them. Be honest with them, and tell them the truth and be respectful, they will understand it, if you are honest with them. Good Luck!!
and watch as they commit suicide....jkJK
just live life and relaxe everything will settle down slow....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7JPuVcBS鈥?/a>|||Sounds like you have done pretty much everything right, if you really love this girl and see her in your future, also knowing that she wants that too, then you should go to their house or ask the girl herself like maybe through text or call her, and just ask if you can sit down with her parents and talk to them. Be honest with them, and tell them the truth and be respectful, they will understand it, if you are honest with them. Good Luck!!
Do you think my friend likes me?
I understand it might look long but its not a dumb question, and anyone who reads it and gives any advice thank you.
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||assurance should come first before commiting to a more intimate relationship.if you could wait a little longer for her to break up with the other guy then that's not a problem...but never give in to just having her telling you not to mind the other guy..worse things come anytime..much better to clarify everything before giving in more..she likes you but she needs to give herself time now to think what she should do with the other guy...
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||assurance should come first before commiting to a more intimate relationship.if you could wait a little longer for her to break up with the other guy then that's not a problem...but never give in to just having her telling you not to mind the other guy..worse things come anytime..much better to clarify everything before giving in more..she likes you but she needs to give herself time now to think what she should do with the other guy...
Are these driving rules valid?
A while back I wrote these, which I consider, considerate driving rules/tips. I'd like to know what some points against them are as constructive criticism. Please provide a reason behind why you're against any of these items, if you disagree with any of them. Or suggest more if you agree.
1. Turn right into the right lane.
2. Turn left into the left lane.
3. Use your signal BEFORE braking.
4. The left lane is for passing and not-slow people. Move out of the way. Specially if you drive an SUV or a truck.
5. Right of way means that whatever you do does not affect what I'm already doing. Pulling out of a parking lot in front of me doesn't mean I have to slow down, it means you need to speed up
6. Take two parking spots and you'll find your car keyed or not able to get in it. Park in the back if you car is that delicate.
7. If you can't control your big a$s truck, don't drive it. Are you even transporting anything? Then why be in the way?
8. The pedestrian crossing is not for motor vehicles, learn to calculate your braking distance.
9. Don't take 2 hours to reach 30mph after a traffic light, specially if you're on the left lane, and specially if you keep "rushing" the traffic light since it turned red.
10. Don't wait to turn left in the middle of the intersection, specially if you're a truck or an SUV, you block the view for the person that wants to turn left in front of you.
11. Don't drive at the same speed as the person next to you, get behind or in front so that traffic can flow.
12. If someone moves over for you, don't be a douchebag and stay in their blind spot or take 2 hours to pass them. Return the favor and pass them so that they can come back to the left lane if/when they need to.
13. Do you enjoy driving behind a semi going 10 miles below the speed limit? It's as annoying for a car to be behind a truck and/or van.
14. "Fast drivers" are not dangerous and slow drivers are not safe. People who drive TOO fast or TOO slow IN RELATION to the overall traffic or in the wrong lanes are dangerous.
15. Keep your eyes on the road. Your the passenger can still hear you, even if you're looking at the road ahead. Better be safe than polite.
16. Joining the freeway at 30 mph is not safe.
17. If you need to change more than 2 lanes, turn your signal off after each one so people will know you're waiting to change again and not think that you're an idiot who forgot to turn them off.
18. Use your cruise control to avoid involuntary speedups and slowdowns and also avoiding looking like an a$s or a douche.|||(This has now come up on the UK site, so left/right swapped in my comments vs. the question).
I'd agree with everything except keying someone else's car.
Many of the things you mention annoy the hell out of me, like people staying in the right lane for miles on end when not overtaking.
The worst are probably the prats who insist on driving 10 - 20mph under the speed limit. I wonder how meany deaths they are responsible for, due to people getting frustrated %26amp; overtaking when not really safe..|||thanks for the rant!|||A while back I wrote these, which I consider, considerate driving rules/tips.
You are completely wrong in your assessment of what you wrote. What you have is an insulting rant, and I don't know why you wasted your time or ours posting them here.
Just for an example: Take two parking spots and you'll find your car keyed or not able to get in it. Park in the back if you car is that delicate.
That can get you hurt. Badly hurt. The rest are not a bit better.
I doubt you will have the answers you seem to want.|||First the word is ESPECIALLY, not specially. Specially would mean something was done in a special way.
Second Right of way is YIELDED not owned. This whole idea of they need to speed up, not you need to slow down, is going to get you a ticket when you rear-end them. It is YOUR JOB as a driver to avoid accidents.
Third WTF is someone in front of you waiting to turn left if you are in the intersection? How are you blocking their view? Where are they if they are IN FRONT OF YOU? Once again poor English. The term you are HOPEFULLY looking for is ACROSS from you.
A lot of these ARE just rants and insulting ones at that. Some of them are common sense things that SHOULD be followed.|||These are not driving rules for you.
There are rants about people in your way.
I see you have several complaints about large vehicles that block you. You need to ride a small motorcycle to understand *how* to drive to avoid others.
1. Turn right into the right lane.
2. Turn left into the left lane.
3. Use your signal BEFORE braking.
4. The left lane is for passing and not-slow people. Move out of the way. Specially if you drive an SUV or a truck.
5. Right of way means that whatever you do does not affect what I'm already doing. Pulling out of a parking lot in front of me doesn't mean I have to slow down, it means you need to speed up
6. Take two parking spots and you'll find your car keyed or not able to get in it. Park in the back if you car is that delicate.
7. If you can't control your big a$s truck, don't drive it. Are you even transporting anything? Then why be in the way?
8. The pedestrian crossing is not for motor vehicles, learn to calculate your braking distance.
9. Don't take 2 hours to reach 30mph after a traffic light, specially if you're on the left lane, and specially if you keep "rushing" the traffic light since it turned red.
10. Don't wait to turn left in the middle of the intersection, specially if you're a truck or an SUV, you block the view for the person that wants to turn left in front of you.
11. Don't drive at the same speed as the person next to you, get behind or in front so that traffic can flow.
12. If someone moves over for you, don't be a douchebag and stay in their blind spot or take 2 hours to pass them. Return the favor and pass them so that they can come back to the left lane if/when they need to.
13. Do you enjoy driving behind a semi going 10 miles below the speed limit? It's as annoying for a car to be behind a truck and/or van.
14. "Fast drivers" are not dangerous and slow drivers are not safe. People who drive TOO fast or TOO slow IN RELATION to the overall traffic or in the wrong lanes are dangerous.
15. Keep your eyes on the road. Your the passenger can still hear you, even if you're looking at the road ahead. Better be safe than polite.
16. Joining the freeway at 30 mph is not safe.
17. If you need to change more than 2 lanes, turn your signal off after each one so people will know you're waiting to change again and not think that you're an idiot who forgot to turn them off.
18. Use your cruise control to avoid involuntary speedups and slowdowns and also avoiding looking like an a$s or a douche.|||(This has now come up on the UK site, so left/right swapped in my comments vs. the question).
I'd agree with everything except keying someone else's car.
Many of the things you mention annoy the hell out of me, like people staying in the right lane for miles on end when not overtaking.
The worst are probably the prats who insist on driving 10 - 20mph under the speed limit. I wonder how meany deaths they are responsible for, due to people getting frustrated %26amp; overtaking when not really safe..|||thanks for the rant!|||A while back I wrote these, which I consider, considerate driving rules/tips.
You are completely wrong in your assessment of what you wrote. What you have is an insulting rant, and I don't know why you wasted your time or ours posting them here.
Just for an example: Take two parking spots and you'll find your car keyed or not able to get in it. Park in the back if you car is that delicate.
That can get you hurt. Badly hurt. The rest are not a bit better.
I doubt you will have the answers you seem to want.|||First the word is ESPECIALLY, not specially. Specially would mean something was done in a special way.
Second Right of way is YIELDED not owned. This whole idea of they need to speed up, not you need to slow down, is going to get you a ticket when you rear-end them. It is YOUR JOB as a driver to avoid accidents.
Third WTF is someone in front of you waiting to turn left if you are in the intersection? How are you blocking their view? Where are they if they are IN FRONT OF YOU? Once again poor English. The term you are HOPEFULLY looking for is ACROSS from you.
A lot of these ARE just rants and insulting ones at that. Some of them are common sense things that SHOULD be followed.|||These are not driving rules for you.
There are rants about people in your way.
I see you have several complaints about large vehicles that block you. You need to ride a small motorcycle to understand *how* to drive to avoid others.
Do you think my friend likes me?
I understand it might look long but its not a dumb question, and anyone who reads it and gives any advice thank you.
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||Just tell it to her straight that you won't go any further with her and you'll just stay her friend until she becomes single again. She needs to make up her mind about who she likes. Obviously she likes you a lot, but I don't it would be healthy to get more serious with her while she still has a boyfriend (like you said).|||here's what you do, since you are young, screw it if she has a boyfriend go for it! Have you ever met the guy? What harm could it do at your age.|||Haha. She has a boyfriend and likes you?
Well.. think about it? If shes hanging out with you, lying on your shoulder etcetc. What if she breaks up with him and goes with you?
What if she does the same thing to another guy? How would you feel?
Think about it.
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||Just tell it to her straight that you won't go any further with her and you'll just stay her friend until she becomes single again. She needs to make up her mind about who she likes. Obviously she likes you a lot, but I don't it would be healthy to get more serious with her while she still has a boyfriend (like you said).|||here's what you do, since you are young, screw it if she has a boyfriend go for it! Have you ever met the guy? What harm could it do at your age.|||Haha. She has a boyfriend and likes you?
Well.. think about it? If shes hanging out with you, lying on your shoulder etcetc. What if she breaks up with him and goes with you?
What if she does the same thing to another guy? How would you feel?
Think about it.
Do you think my friend likes me?
I understand it might look long but its not a dumb question, and anyone who reads it and gives any advice thank you.
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. She texts me in the middle of the night saying ''boo are you sleeping I cant sleep'' cause she knows I stay up late. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||I think she likes you but still cant get over her current BF, talk to her seriously , If you both don't try to put an end , this will bother you both and your sweet days will fade away soon. Just talk to her and ask her to make her decision sooner.
good luck;)|||yes she does but shes scared,, she needs some advice be there for her and things will slip into place|||hanging out + flirting = dating|||Hmm I think you should back off... think about it though, how do you know she wouldnt do the same thing if you two were in a relationship, hanging out with some guy one on one texting him and fraternizing to the point where like you said it seems like its a date, she sounds like a player
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. She texts me in the middle of the night saying ''boo are you sleeping I cant sleep'' cause she knows I stay up late. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||I think she likes you but still cant get over her current BF, talk to her seriously , If you both don't try to put an end , this will bother you both and your sweet days will fade away soon. Just talk to her and ask her to make her decision sooner.
good luck;)|||yes she does but shes scared,, she needs some advice be there for her and things will slip into place|||hanging out + flirting = dating|||Hmm I think you should back off... think about it though, how do you know she wouldnt do the same thing if you two were in a relationship, hanging out with some guy one on one texting him and fraternizing to the point where like you said it seems like its a date, she sounds like a player
Do you think my friend likes me?
I understand it might look long but its not a dumb question, and anyone who reads it and gives any advice thank you.
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||I'm going to assume that you also like her and would like to have a romantic relationship with her. If that's the case, then confront her, gently, of course. Tell her that you would like to date her, but she needs to figure out her relationship with her bf first. Either break up with him, or you two can no longer hang out the way you've been doing. Important point: assure her that you're 100% serious (if you really are, of course) about furthering your relationship. That way she doesn't feel like she's jumping off a cliff not knowing if there's someone there to catch her.
If you don't really want to date her, then, assuming you're weirded out by her actions, ask her to stop.
Good luck, dude!|||Her current relationship sounds like it definitely won't last, so wait it out.|||If you are both comfortable with one another, stay together. If she is unhappy with her boyfriend, she won't stay with him for much longer, especially if she's into you. Don't let her go.|||you might not like what im gonna say cuz you like her but hear me out.
I don't how she still with her bf and hangs out with you like that. put yourself in his shoes is that the girl you wanna be with.
I think she should do something about her bf before you get with her. Otherwise, you gonna be in her bf's position any moment.
remember it only seems so sweet cuz it's the very beginning of the relationship. every relationship seems so perfect in the beginning! but you never know
I have known her for 5 months, we met at school. After the first week I asked her if she wanted to hangout and she said sure but I could tell it was just to be nice. So we never hung out. Then about a month later she tells me Im not the guy she thought I was Im real sweet and not a jerk. Then she said lets hangout so we have been hanging out alot the last two months. Every time we hangout it feels like we are out on a date. We agree on almost anything, always help each other when were down and can talk about anything. Lately she has been complimenting me alot more and hugging me whenever I say bye. We flirt sometimes. Then last night we hung out at the park, then went to get something to eat, and then say a movie really late. We have had some physical contact before. But yesterday when we were in the movie theater she all the sudden layed her head on my leg and I put my arm on her shoulder, and later on she told me to lay on her lap and she put her arms around me and started rubbing her hands through my hair. It was weird because nothing felt awkward. And this morning she texts me saying I had a dream we were hanging out together. I like her but she has a bf who goes to school long distance and she has talked about breaking up with him, he annoys her and is controlling. Wants her to stay in her house all day. I always ask her you sure its ok if we hangout, She says don't worry what he thinks cause I told him I need my space. I will never let anything sexual between us happen as long as she is in a relationship. She said we have to do this again soon. I don't know what to do since she has a bf.|||I'm going to assume that you also like her and would like to have a romantic relationship with her. If that's the case, then confront her, gently, of course. Tell her that you would like to date her, but she needs to figure out her relationship with her bf first. Either break up with him, or you two can no longer hang out the way you've been doing. Important point: assure her that you're 100% serious (if you really are, of course) about furthering your relationship. That way she doesn't feel like she's jumping off a cliff not knowing if there's someone there to catch her.
If you don't really want to date her, then, assuming you're weirded out by her actions, ask her to stop.
Good luck, dude!|||Her current relationship sounds like it definitely won't last, so wait it out.|||If you are both comfortable with one another, stay together. If she is unhappy with her boyfriend, she won't stay with him for much longer, especially if she's into you. Don't let her go.|||you might not like what im gonna say cuz you like her but hear me out.
I don't how she still with her bf and hangs out with you like that. put yourself in his shoes is that the girl you wanna be with.
I think she should do something about her bf before you get with her. Otherwise, you gonna be in her bf's position any moment.
remember it only seems so sweet cuz it's the very beginning of the relationship. every relationship seems so perfect in the beginning! but you never know
Need help with my drug and alcohol test please!!!?
1. A pool of standing water could be hiding
A. flash flood currents that could sweep your car away.
B. deep sinkholes.
C. all of the above.
2. "Welcome to Yellowstone Park" is an example of a:
A. Regulatory
B. Warning
C. Guide
3. You should always measure your following distance in
A. Seconds
B. Car lengths
C. Feet
4. Many people view drug and alcohol abuse as a social problem
A. True
B. False
5. At 60 mph the force of your car impacting a surface is about four times as great as 30 mph.
A. True
B. False
6. If two cars get to a four-way stop intersection at the same time, the car making a left turn should always be given the right of way
A. True
B. False
7. Examples of traffic controls are:
A. Signs or road markings
B. Signals
C. All of the above
8. The Basic Speed Law means:
A. Obey the speed limit
B. Slow down if you do not know the speed limit
C. Do not go faster than it is safe for conditions
9. What do the initials B.A.C. represent?
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Concentration
C. Blood Alcohol Content
10. If you have the right-of-way:
A. You should always take it
B. Have other cars go first
C. Never insist on it
11. Each year over ______ people die in car crashes.
A. 15,000
B. 27,000
C. 42,000
12. What does cross addiction and cross dependence mean
A. You can become addicted to drugs in different class even if you never use them
B. You can become addicted to drugs in the same class even if you never use them
C. You become addicted to all types of drugs
13. The best safety feature for preventing whiplash is the airbag.
A. True
B. False
14. Shape is indicative of the sign type
A. True
B. False
15. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher.
A. True
B. False
16. Alcohol and other drugs affect the nerve cells within the brain
A. True
B. False
17. Alcohol is considered a
A. Poisonous drug
B. Recreational drug
C. Recreational beverage
18. In a merge situation, the right of way goes to the car occupying the lane into which other cars are merging.
A. True
B. False
19. LSD can make a person
A. Have illusions and hallucinations
B. Sleep better
C. Feel more perceptive
20. The top excuse for not wearing your seat belt is
A. I am only going a short distance.
B. It is too tight.
C. I forgot
21. You may lose your drivers license if you accumulate too many points on your driving record.
A. True
B. False
22. Your level of intoxication will be a lot higher if you have a bottle of beer rather than a glass of wine
A. True
B. False
23. Traffic collisions are the number one killer of children in America.
A. True
B. False
24. The trickiest and most difficult lighting exists at what time?
A. In the morning.
B. Mid-afternoon.
C. Dusk.
25. BAC stands for
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Comprehension.
C. Blood Alcohol Concentration
26. The cost to state and local government for a fatal crash can reach:
A. $25,000
B. $100,000
C. $500,000
27. Trucks
A. Have a larger blind spot
B. Are easy to stop in case of emergency.
C. Can easily see your car.
28. You must place a child in an approved child seat if the child is:
A. Three years of age and under.
B. Under nine years of age
C. Under 60 pounds
29. A school crossing sign is an example of a _______ sign.
A. Warning
B. Guide
C. Regulatory
30. Most collisions are caused by:
A. Drivers falling asleep at the wheel.
B. Road Rage
C. Driver's attitude
31. People who drink too much only hurt themselves
A. True
B. False
32. The economic cost to society each year from crashes and injuries on US highways is about 230 Billion dollars.
A. True
B. False
33. Impaired drivers will sometimes:
A. Drive very slow.
B. Drive with the windows open.
C. Both of the above
34. Alcohol contains
A. Ethanol
B. Gasoline
C. Carbon
35. Alcohol is a stimulant
A. True
B. False
36. If two cars get to a 4-way stop intersection at the same time, which car should be yielded the right-of-way.
A. Car on the right.
B. Car on the left.
C. Car making a turn.
37. People who wear their shoulder belt under their arm may have ____ in the event of a collision
A. A third degree neck burn
B. A collapsed lung
C. Their Aorta separated from their heart
38. Hydroplaning may occur when
A. You drive over water
B. You drive over dust
C. You drive in snow
39. If you miss your exit on the freeway, it is legal to stop and back-up.
A. Never.
B. When the traffic is very light.
C. As much as thirty yards.
40. A parking brake system is not required if your service brakes are fully functional.
A. True
B. False|||Do it yourself. This test is to evaluate YOUR knowledge, not mine.|||It will be easy for you to answer all these questions if you take florida drug and alcohol test course online.This course covers everything that you need to pass your Florida DMV permit test.
A. flash flood currents that could sweep your car away.
B. deep sinkholes.
C. all of the above.
2. "Welcome to Yellowstone Park" is an example of a:
A. Regulatory
B. Warning
C. Guide
3. You should always measure your following distance in
A. Seconds
B. Car lengths
C. Feet
4. Many people view drug and alcohol abuse as a social problem
A. True
B. False
5. At 60 mph the force of your car impacting a surface is about four times as great as 30 mph.
A. True
B. False
6. If two cars get to a four-way stop intersection at the same time, the car making a left turn should always be given the right of way
A. True
B. False
7. Examples of traffic controls are:
A. Signs or road markings
B. Signals
C. All of the above
8. The Basic Speed Law means:
A. Obey the speed limit
B. Slow down if you do not know the speed limit
C. Do not go faster than it is safe for conditions
9. What do the initials B.A.C. represent?
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Concentration
C. Blood Alcohol Content
10. If you have the right-of-way:
A. You should always take it
B. Have other cars go first
C. Never insist on it
11. Each year over ______ people die in car crashes.
A. 15,000
B. 27,000
C. 42,000
12. What does cross addiction and cross dependence mean
A. You can become addicted to drugs in different class even if you never use them
B. You can become addicted to drugs in the same class even if you never use them
C. You become addicted to all types of drugs
13. The best safety feature for preventing whiplash is the airbag.
A. True
B. False
14. Shape is indicative of the sign type
A. True
B. False
15. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher.
A. True
B. False
16. Alcohol and other drugs affect the nerve cells within the brain
A. True
B. False
17. Alcohol is considered a
A. Poisonous drug
B. Recreational drug
C. Recreational beverage
18. In a merge situation, the right of way goes to the car occupying the lane into which other cars are merging.
A. True
B. False
19. LSD can make a person
A. Have illusions and hallucinations
B. Sleep better
C. Feel more perceptive
20. The top excuse for not wearing your seat belt is
A. I am only going a short distance.
B. It is too tight.
C. I forgot
21. You may lose your drivers license if you accumulate too many points on your driving record.
A. True
B. False
22. Your level of intoxication will be a lot higher if you have a bottle of beer rather than a glass of wine
A. True
B. False
23. Traffic collisions are the number one killer of children in America.
A. True
B. False
24. The trickiest and most difficult lighting exists at what time?
A. In the morning.
B. Mid-afternoon.
C. Dusk.
25. BAC stands for
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Comprehension.
C. Blood Alcohol Concentration
26. The cost to state and local government for a fatal crash can reach:
A. $25,000
B. $100,000
C. $500,000
27. Trucks
A. Have a larger blind spot
B. Are easy to stop in case of emergency.
C. Can easily see your car.
28. You must place a child in an approved child seat if the child is:
A. Three years of age and under.
B. Under nine years of age
C. Under 60 pounds
29. A school crossing sign is an example of a _______ sign.
A. Warning
B. Guide
C. Regulatory
30. Most collisions are caused by:
A. Drivers falling asleep at the wheel.
B. Road Rage
C. Driver's attitude
31. People who drink too much only hurt themselves
A. True
B. False
32. The economic cost to society each year from crashes and injuries on US highways is about 230 Billion dollars.
A. True
B. False
33. Impaired drivers will sometimes:
A. Drive very slow.
B. Drive with the windows open.
C. Both of the above
34. Alcohol contains
A. Ethanol
B. Gasoline
C. Carbon
35. Alcohol is a stimulant
A. True
B. False
36. If two cars get to a 4-way stop intersection at the same time, which car should be yielded the right-of-way.
A. Car on the right.
B. Car on the left.
C. Car making a turn.
37. People who wear their shoulder belt under their arm may have ____ in the event of a collision
A. A third degree neck burn
B. A collapsed lung
C. Their Aorta separated from their heart
38. Hydroplaning may occur when
A. You drive over water
B. You drive over dust
C. You drive in snow
39. If you miss your exit on the freeway, it is legal to stop and back-up.
A. Never.
B. When the traffic is very light.
C. As much as thirty yards.
40. A parking brake system is not required if your service brakes are fully functional.
A. True
B. False|||Do it yourself. This test is to evaluate YOUR knowledge, not mine.|||It will be easy for you to answer all these questions if you take florida drug and alcohol test course online.This course covers everything that you need to pass your Florida DMV permit test.
Is this Descriptive Enough?
I was once told that a brilliant author tells their story in lots of detail. I want to be an author.
Here is part of my story.
The sky had darkened for the winter months yet here I still sat, staring into the lake, looking for nothing yet searching for everything. I had sat in this exact place at this time everyday for the past three months. I would run from school the moment the bell went and I would just sit and stare, I would watch the fish bob up to the surface looking for a scrap of food, I would hear the squawking of the birds as they set off for somewhere warmer and I would take a mental note of how much more the lake had begun to ice over, I would trace the edges of the lake now covered in ice and I would think about how nice it would be to get trapped under that ice and never have to come up again, this was my sanctuary. But my sanctuary was about to be ruined.
“Hey Christelle,” called Deon as he saw me just sitting there.
“Go away,” I moaned under my breath, he was going to ruin everything for me, he was going to ruin me, whenever he was around he made me feel like hoping, he made me feel happiness and that wasn’t something I could risk feeling.
“What are you doing out here, all alone, without a jacket in this weather?” He was concerned about me, I really wished he wasn’t, I would just hurt him, the thought of hurting sweet, caring Deon made me want to cry.
“I’m thinking about what topic I want to write on for that 5000 word essay we have to write on,” I lied smoothly, to be me, you had to be a good liar.
“Ahh, the essay, I’m doing a comparison between the movie and the book of Frankenstein. What are you doing yours on?”
‘Oh ****, I don’t know. Quick think of something’. “Umm, I’m writing mine on the psychological profile of Adolf Hitler and how if he had the chance to follow his dreams of being an artist then he wouldn’t have become a controlling, power hungry, man who had part in causing the second world war.”
“That sounds complicated, like it needs a lot of research. I only need to read a book and watch a movie. Hey, umm, would you like to,” his question was cut short by his phone ringing, he picked it up looking embarrassed, I just looked out at the lake again and blocked the world away from me, I discretely looked at my watch, ‘Oh Crap, I was late, I was going to be punished, just like I always was when I was late.’ Deon was off the phone and was looking at me expectantly, I realised he had just said something.
“Sorry did you say something?”
“Don’t worry about it, I have to go anyway,” he looked upset about something, “Bye.”
“See you tomorrow,” I said watching him go with tears in my eyes, I just watched him walk away from me not knowing if he would ever come back, I always did that; I pushed people away until they never came back.
As if in sync the tears ran down my face as the clouds began to cry and thunder cracked in the distance. The rain became heavier and heavier and I started sobbing louder and louder until I was absolutely emotionally spent, I looked at my watch which was no longer working due to all the water. I slowly got off the painted green bench and walked through the park, I walked past the lake and through the thin trees that had no leaves, when I reached the gates to the park I ran, I ran past the grafftied shops and the litter strewn highschools and I kept running faster until I was sprinting until I reached my front gate to enter my personal hell and suffer the inevetiable.
This is mine, imagine a copyright sign, (C) of Isobel Trundle.
Is this okay for description. I think it needs more but i need someone elses opinion and i don't want to ask my friends because they may not give me the truth.|||Yes it's real descriptive.
You can already gather a lot about your main character.
Perhaps adding a full stop or two because you tend to make really long sentences- or the use of a semicolon ; here and there to help ?
You can add to it by using some more sophisticated vocab as well- such as replacing 'green' with 'emerald, lime or ivy' or replacing 'I started sobbing louder and louder' with 'I began to cry, trembling sobs escaped me and eventually i was howling with pain...'
Use descriptions to extend the readers minds- the use of imagery when describing the ice on the lake could be further enhanced by using either a simile or metaphor- (look it up if you don't know)
"I would trace the edges of the lake now covered in ice..." describe this better, e.g.:
'I could trace the fresh ice that had sprawled itself across the lake, like long extended branches...'
Your main character is obviously dark with a 'emo' streak if you will, you can use this in your description more because you have written in first person you have this advantage-
e.g. "I walked past the lake and through the thin trees that had no leaves"
try speaking about the surroundings with the character's mood, something like:
'I tread through the park with it's trees as thin as limb children of starvation, soon to die without substance, just a scattering of pitiful leaves on each branch...'
using personification and onomatopoeia are good too. Personify the thunder or other parts of nature 'the thunder shrieked and roared...'
Otherwise sounds good. Just edit bit that could be made shorter by creating new sentences as some are long enough.
good luck.
Here is part of my story.
The sky had darkened for the winter months yet here I still sat, staring into the lake, looking for nothing yet searching for everything. I had sat in this exact place at this time everyday for the past three months. I would run from school the moment the bell went and I would just sit and stare, I would watch the fish bob up to the surface looking for a scrap of food, I would hear the squawking of the birds as they set off for somewhere warmer and I would take a mental note of how much more the lake had begun to ice over, I would trace the edges of the lake now covered in ice and I would think about how nice it would be to get trapped under that ice and never have to come up again, this was my sanctuary. But my sanctuary was about to be ruined.
“Hey Christelle,” called Deon as he saw me just sitting there.
“Go away,” I moaned under my breath, he was going to ruin everything for me, he was going to ruin me, whenever he was around he made me feel like hoping, he made me feel happiness and that wasn’t something I could risk feeling.
“What are you doing out here, all alone, without a jacket in this weather?” He was concerned about me, I really wished he wasn’t, I would just hurt him, the thought of hurting sweet, caring Deon made me want to cry.
“I’m thinking about what topic I want to write on for that 5000 word essay we have to write on,” I lied smoothly, to be me, you had to be a good liar.
“Ahh, the essay, I’m doing a comparison between the movie and the book of Frankenstein. What are you doing yours on?”
‘Oh ****, I don’t know. Quick think of something’. “Umm, I’m writing mine on the psychological profile of Adolf Hitler and how if he had the chance to follow his dreams of being an artist then he wouldn’t have become a controlling, power hungry, man who had part in causing the second world war.”
“That sounds complicated, like it needs a lot of research. I only need to read a book and watch a movie. Hey, umm, would you like to,” his question was cut short by his phone ringing, he picked it up looking embarrassed, I just looked out at the lake again and blocked the world away from me, I discretely looked at my watch, ‘Oh Crap, I was late, I was going to be punished, just like I always was when I was late.’ Deon was off the phone and was looking at me expectantly, I realised he had just said something.
“Sorry did you say something?”
“Don’t worry about it, I have to go anyway,” he looked upset about something, “Bye.”
“See you tomorrow,” I said watching him go with tears in my eyes, I just watched him walk away from me not knowing if he would ever come back, I always did that; I pushed people away until they never came back.
As if in sync the tears ran down my face as the clouds began to cry and thunder cracked in the distance. The rain became heavier and heavier and I started sobbing louder and louder until I was absolutely emotionally spent, I looked at my watch which was no longer working due to all the water. I slowly got off the painted green bench and walked through the park, I walked past the lake and through the thin trees that had no leaves, when I reached the gates to the park I ran, I ran past the grafftied shops and the litter strewn highschools and I kept running faster until I was sprinting until I reached my front gate to enter my personal hell and suffer the inevetiable.
This is mine, imagine a copyright sign, (C) of Isobel Trundle.
Is this okay for description. I think it needs more but i need someone elses opinion and i don't want to ask my friends because they may not give me the truth.|||Yes it's real descriptive.
You can already gather a lot about your main character.
Perhaps adding a full stop or two because you tend to make really long sentences- or the use of a semicolon ; here and there to help ?
You can add to it by using some more sophisticated vocab as well- such as replacing 'green' with 'emerald, lime or ivy' or replacing 'I started sobbing louder and louder' with 'I began to cry, trembling sobs escaped me and eventually i was howling with pain...'
Use descriptions to extend the readers minds- the use of imagery when describing the ice on the lake could be further enhanced by using either a simile or metaphor- (look it up if you don't know)
"I would trace the edges of the lake now covered in ice..." describe this better, e.g.:
'I could trace the fresh ice that had sprawled itself across the lake, like long extended branches...'
Your main character is obviously dark with a 'emo' streak if you will, you can use this in your description more because you have written in first person you have this advantage-
e.g. "I walked past the lake and through the thin trees that had no leaves"
try speaking about the surroundings with the character's mood, something like:
'I tread through the park with it's trees as thin as limb children of starvation, soon to die without substance, just a scattering of pitiful leaves on each branch...'
using personification and onomatopoeia are good too. Personify the thunder or other parts of nature 'the thunder shrieked and roared...'
Otherwise sounds good. Just edit bit that could be made shorter by creating new sentences as some are long enough.
good luck.
Help with blood and alcohol test for drivers permit!?
Need help with my drug and alcohol test please!!!?
1. A pool of standing water could be hiding
A. flash flood currents that could sweep your car away.
B. deep sinkholes.
C. all of the above.
2. "Welcome to Yellowstone Park" is an example of a:
A. Regulatory
B. Warning
C. Guide
3. You should always measure your following distance in
A. Seconds
B. Car lengths
C. Feet
4. Many people view drug and alcohol abuse as a social problem
A. True
B. False
5. At 60 mph the force of your car impacting a surface is about four times as great as 30 mph.
A. True
B. False
6. If two cars get to a four-way stop intersection at the same time, the car making a left turn should always be given the right of way
A. True
B. False
7. Examples of traffic controls are:
A. Signs or road markings
B. Signals
C. All of the above
8. The Basic Speed Law means:
A. Obey the speed limit
B. Slow down if you do not know the speed limit
C. Do not go faster than it is safe for conditions
9. What do the initials B.A.C. represent?
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Concentration
C. Blood Alcohol Content
10. If you have the right-of-way:
A. You should always take it
B. Have other cars go first
C. Never insist on it
11. Each year over ______ people die in car crashes.
A. 15,000
B. 27,000
C. 42,000
12. What does cross addiction and cross dependence mean
A. You can become addicted to drugs in different class even if you never use them
B. You can become addicted to drugs in the same class even if you never use them
C. You become addicted to all types of drugs
13. The best safety feature for preventing whiplash is the airbag.
A. True
B. False
14. Shape is indicative of the sign type
A. True
B. False
15. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher.
A. True
B. False
16. Alcohol and other drugs affect the nerve cells within the brain
A. True
B. False
17. Alcohol is considered a
A. Poisonous drug
B. Recreational drug
C. Recreational beverage
18. In a merge situation, the right of way goes to the car occupying the lane into which other cars are merging.
A. True
B. False
19. LSD can make a person
A. Have illusions and hallucinations
B. Sleep better
C. Feel more perceptive
20. The top excuse for not wearing your seat belt is
A. I am only going a short distance.
B. It is too tight.
C. I forgot
21. You may lose your drivers license if you accumulate too many points on your driving record.
A. True
B. False
22. Your level of intoxication will be a lot higher if you have a bottle of beer rather than a glass of wine
A. True
B. False
23. Traffic collisions are the number one killer of children in America.
A. True
B. False
24. The trickiest and most difficult lighting exists at what time?
A. In the morning.
B. Mid-afternoon.
C. Dusk.
25. BAC stands for
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Comprehension.
C. Blood Alcohol Concentration
26. The cost to state and local government for a fatal crash can reach:
A. $25,000
B. $100,000
C. $500,000
27. Trucks
A. Have a larger blind spot
B. Are easy to stop in case of emergency.
C. Can easily see your car.
28. You must place a child in an approved child seat if the child is:
A. Three years of age and under.
B. Under nine years of age
C. Under 60 pounds
29. A school crossing sign is an example of a _______ sign.
A. Warning
B. Guide
C. Regulatory
30. Most collisions are caused by:
A. Drivers falling asleep at the wheel.
B. Road Rage
C. Driver's attitude
31. People who drink too much only hurt themselves
A. True
B. False
32. The economic cost to society each year from crashes and injuries on US highways is about 230 Billion dollars.
A. True
B. False
33. Impaired drivers will sometimes:
A. Drive very slow.
B. Drive with the windows open.
C. Both of the above
34. Alcohol contains
A. Ethanol
B. Gasoline
C. Carbon
35. Alcohol is a stimulant
A. True
B. False
36. If two cars get to a 4-way stop intersection at the same time, which car should be yielded the right-of-way.
A. Car on the right.
B. Car on the left.
C. Car making a turn.
37. People who wear their shoulder belt under their arm may have ____ in the event of a collision
A. A third degree neck burn
B. A collapsed lung
C. Their Aorta separated from their heart
38. Hydroplaning may occur when
A. You drive over water
B. You drive over dust
C. You drive in snow
39. If you miss your exit on the freeway, it is legal to stop and back-up.
A. Never.
B. When the traffic is very light.
C. As much as thirty yards.
40. A parking brake system is not required if your service brakes are fully functional.
A. True
B. False|||Anybody could answer those questions. They're simple.|||It will be easy for you to answer all these questions if you take Florida drug and alcohol test course online.This course will help you to gain knowledge about Traffic Rules and signs. For more information visit below site|||That's is all common sense! If you don't have the common sense to answer these questions without help then you should not be behind the wheel of a vehicle!|||Correct me if I'm wrong: YOU'RE supposed to come up with the answers on your own.
By the way, these are really EASY questions.
1. A pool of standing water could be hiding
A. flash flood currents that could sweep your car away.
B. deep sinkholes.
C. all of the above.
2. "Welcome to Yellowstone Park" is an example of a:
A. Regulatory
B. Warning
C. Guide
3. You should always measure your following distance in
A. Seconds
B. Car lengths
C. Feet
4. Many people view drug and alcohol abuse as a social problem
A. True
B. False
5. At 60 mph the force of your car impacting a surface is about four times as great as 30 mph.
A. True
B. False
6. If two cars get to a four-way stop intersection at the same time, the car making a left turn should always be given the right of way
A. True
B. False
7. Examples of traffic controls are:
A. Signs or road markings
B. Signals
C. All of the above
8. The Basic Speed Law means:
A. Obey the speed limit
B. Slow down if you do not know the speed limit
C. Do not go faster than it is safe for conditions
9. What do the initials B.A.C. represent?
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Concentration
C. Blood Alcohol Content
10. If you have the right-of-way:
A. You should always take it
B. Have other cars go first
C. Never insist on it
11. Each year over ______ people die in car crashes.
A. 15,000
B. 27,000
C. 42,000
12. What does cross addiction and cross dependence mean
A. You can become addicted to drugs in different class even if you never use them
B. You can become addicted to drugs in the same class even if you never use them
C. You become addicted to all types of drugs
13. The best safety feature for preventing whiplash is the airbag.
A. True
B. False
14. Shape is indicative of the sign type
A. True
B. False
15. The best tool to extinguish a small gasoline or diesel fire is a portable fire extinguisher.
A. True
B. False
16. Alcohol and other drugs affect the nerve cells within the brain
A. True
B. False
17. Alcohol is considered a
A. Poisonous drug
B. Recreational drug
C. Recreational beverage
18. In a merge situation, the right of way goes to the car occupying the lane into which other cars are merging.
A. True
B. False
19. LSD can make a person
A. Have illusions and hallucinations
B. Sleep better
C. Feel more perceptive
20. The top excuse for not wearing your seat belt is
A. I am only going a short distance.
B. It is too tight.
C. I forgot
21. You may lose your drivers license if you accumulate too many points on your driving record.
A. True
B. False
22. Your level of intoxication will be a lot higher if you have a bottle of beer rather than a glass of wine
A. True
B. False
23. Traffic collisions are the number one killer of children in America.
A. True
B. False
24. The trickiest and most difficult lighting exists at what time?
A. In the morning.
B. Mid-afternoon.
C. Dusk.
25. BAC stands for
A. Basic Alcohol Consumption.
B. Basic Alcohol Comprehension.
C. Blood Alcohol Concentration
26. The cost to state and local government for a fatal crash can reach:
A. $25,000
B. $100,000
C. $500,000
27. Trucks
A. Have a larger blind spot
B. Are easy to stop in case of emergency.
C. Can easily see your car.
28. You must place a child in an approved child seat if the child is:
A. Three years of age and under.
B. Under nine years of age
C. Under 60 pounds
29. A school crossing sign is an example of a _______ sign.
A. Warning
B. Guide
C. Regulatory
30. Most collisions are caused by:
A. Drivers falling asleep at the wheel.
B. Road Rage
C. Driver's attitude
31. People who drink too much only hurt themselves
A. True
B. False
32. The economic cost to society each year from crashes and injuries on US highways is about 230 Billion dollars.
A. True
B. False
33. Impaired drivers will sometimes:
A. Drive very slow.
B. Drive with the windows open.
C. Both of the above
34. Alcohol contains
A. Ethanol
B. Gasoline
C. Carbon
35. Alcohol is a stimulant
A. True
B. False
36. If two cars get to a 4-way stop intersection at the same time, which car should be yielded the right-of-way.
A. Car on the right.
B. Car on the left.
C. Car making a turn.
37. People who wear their shoulder belt under their arm may have ____ in the event of a collision
A. A third degree neck burn
B. A collapsed lung
C. Their Aorta separated from their heart
38. Hydroplaning may occur when
A. You drive over water
B. You drive over dust
C. You drive in snow
39. If you miss your exit on the freeway, it is legal to stop and back-up.
A. Never.
B. When the traffic is very light.
C. As much as thirty yards.
40. A parking brake system is not required if your service brakes are fully functional.
A. True
B. False|||Anybody could answer those questions. They're simple.|||It will be easy for you to answer all these questions if you take Florida drug and alcohol test course online.This course will help you to gain knowledge about Traffic Rules and signs. For more information visit below site|||That's is all common sense! If you don't have the common sense to answer these questions without help then you should not be behind the wheel of a vehicle!|||Correct me if I'm wrong: YOU'RE supposed to come up with the answers on your own.
By the way, these are really EASY questions.
Will the judge throw out this ticket?
Back in December I was t-boned by a police officer in Albany NY. The police officer was responding to a burglary around 10 am. The police officer was driving extremely fast and ran a red light through an extremely busy intersection. Traffic was driving smoothly and I did not see or hear the officer coming. I was almost through my green light when I look over and a police officer smashes my car in. Where he was coming from, there are very tall buildings so there was no way I was going to see him. No other cars were stopped and he came close to hitting other cars and a person as well. I did not hear any sirens all though he stated he had the lights and sirens on. I don't have the money to hire a lawyer but through my own investigating I think at the very least he wrote the wrong ticket. I was issued a ticket for a 1144-A which states this....
搂 1144-a. Operation of vehicles when approaching a parked, stopped or standing authorized emergency vehicle.
Every operator of a motor vehicle shall exercise due care to avoid colliding with an authorized emergency vehicle which is parked, stopped or standing on the shoulder or any portion of such highway and such authorized emergency vehicle is displaying one or more red or combination red and white lights pursuant to the provisions of paragraph two of subdivision forty-one of section three hundred seventy-five of this chapter. For operators of motor vehicles on parkways or controlled access highways, such due care shall include, but not be limited to, moving from a lane which contains or is immediately adjacent to the shoulder where such authorized emergency vehicle displaying one or more red or combination red and white lights pursuant to the provisions of paragraph two of subdivision forty-one of section three hundred seventy-five of this chapter is parked, stopped or standing to another lane, provided that such movement otherwise complies with the requirements of this chapter including, but not limited to, the provisions of sections eleven hundred ten of this title and eleven hundred twenty-eight of this title.
Well this isn't a highway, he was not stopped, he was speeding through an intersection at a busy time of the day with people heading into work. I believe the ticket he meant to issue was an 1144 which states.......
搂 1144. Operation of vehicles on approach of authorized emergency vehicles.
(a) Upon the immediate approach of an authorized emergency vehicle equipped with at least one lighted lamp exhibiting red light visible under normal atmospheric conditions from a distance of five hundred feet to the front of such vehicle other than a police vehicle or bicycle when operated as an authorized emergency vehicle, and when audible signals are sounded from any said vehicle by siren, exhaust whistle, bell, air-horn or electronic equivalent; the driver of every other vehicle shall yield the right of way and shall immediately drive to a position parallel to, and as close as possible to the right-hand edge or curb of the roadway, or to either edge of a one-way roadway three or more lanes in width, clear of any intersection, and shall stop and remain in such position until the authorized emergency vehicle has passed, unless otherwise directed by a police officer.
(b) This section shall not operate to relieve the driver of an authorized emergency vehicle from the duty to drive with reasonable care for all persons using the highway.
Do you agree and if you do can he change the ticket? Even so I still don't believe I am guilty because of the tall building blocking my view, also it states the this does not let the officer drive with unreasonable care, which my opinion he did and very easily could of injured or killed me, him self or other drivers or walking pedestrians. I have pictures to bring to court of the accident as well as they do to prove the buildings are just to tall for me to see the officer for 500 feet. I really don't want to settle to a lesser ticket if I am truly not guilty of doing anything wrong. I had minor injuries from the crash i had to pay a $500 deductible rent a car, I think i have dealt with this enough and to be honest, I might even have a case to sue them but I don't want to bring it that far. I just want it dropped.
What do you think my chances are?????|||Chances are pretty good. Although my LE (Law Enforcement) experience is on the West coast (mostly California), emergency lights and siren REQUEST the right -of-way here, they do not demand it. You as a driver are required to be able to hear the siren and see the lights (i.e. no headphones, excessively loud music (very subjective), or extremely tinted or obstructed windows) However, it is MY responsibility (as the officer) to drive my emergency vehicle SAFELY, especially at intersections where I have a red light, and the other drivers have the green.
You will have to make the case to the judge (witnesses are VERY helpful, if there were any) that you were driving legally, showing due caution, and obeying all laws. The officer cited you for the wrong crime (so you are NOT guilty of THAT infraction at all), However, should the judge find that you WERE guilty of those other things ( unable to see lights due to obstructed windows, unable to hear the siren due to loud music or headphones, reckless disregard for others safety, etc), he can find you guilty of the traffic infraction that you DID commit, even though the officer did not cite for that.|||Clearly you should have been charged under second section. That is a clerical error and will not make the case void. You will need to present evidence that the officer violated (b).
Photographs of the area taken about the same time off day as the accident should help.|||Yes definitely If you Gotta good lawyer and these days The more tickets a cop hands out the better he gets paid check with your DMV
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搂 1144-a. Operation of vehicles when approaching a parked, stopped or standing authorized emergency vehicle.
Every operator of a motor vehicle shall exercise due care to avoid colliding with an authorized emergency vehicle which is parked, stopped or standing on the shoulder or any portion of such highway and such authorized emergency vehicle is displaying one or more red or combination red and white lights pursuant to the provisions of paragraph two of subdivision forty-one of section three hundred seventy-five of this chapter. For operators of motor vehicles on parkways or controlled access highways, such due care shall include, but not be limited to, moving from a lane which contains or is immediately adjacent to the shoulder where such authorized emergency vehicle displaying one or more red or combination red and white lights pursuant to the provisions of paragraph two of subdivision forty-one of section three hundred seventy-five of this chapter is parked, stopped or standing to another lane, provided that such movement otherwise complies with the requirements of this chapter including, but not limited to, the provisions of sections eleven hundred ten of this title and eleven hundred twenty-eight of this title.
Well this isn't a highway, he was not stopped, he was speeding through an intersection at a busy time of the day with people heading into work. I believe the ticket he meant to issue was an 1144 which states.......
搂 1144. Operation of vehicles on approach of authorized emergency vehicles.
(a) Upon the immediate approach of an authorized emergency vehicle equipped with at least one lighted lamp exhibiting red light visible under normal atmospheric conditions from a distance of five hundred feet to the front of such vehicle other than a police vehicle or bicycle when operated as an authorized emergency vehicle, and when audible signals are sounded from any said vehicle by siren, exhaust whistle, bell, air-horn or electronic equivalent; the driver of every other vehicle shall yield the right of way and shall immediately drive to a position parallel to, and as close as possible to the right-hand edge or curb of the roadway, or to either edge of a one-way roadway three or more lanes in width, clear of any intersection, and shall stop and remain in such position until the authorized emergency vehicle has passed, unless otherwise directed by a police officer.
(b) This section shall not operate to relieve the driver of an authorized emergency vehicle from the duty to drive with reasonable care for all persons using the highway.
Do you agree and if you do can he change the ticket? Even so I still don't believe I am guilty because of the tall building blocking my view, also it states the this does not let the officer drive with unreasonable care, which my opinion he did and very easily could of injured or killed me, him self or other drivers or walking pedestrians. I have pictures to bring to court of the accident as well as they do to prove the buildings are just to tall for me to see the officer for 500 feet. I really don't want to settle to a lesser ticket if I am truly not guilty of doing anything wrong. I had minor injuries from the crash i had to pay a $500 deductible rent a car, I think i have dealt with this enough and to be honest, I might even have a case to sue them but I don't want to bring it that far. I just want it dropped.
What do you think my chances are?????|||Chances are pretty good. Although my LE (Law Enforcement) experience is on the West coast (mostly California), emergency lights and siren REQUEST the right -of-way here, they do not demand it. You as a driver are required to be able to hear the siren and see the lights (i.e. no headphones, excessively loud music (very subjective), or extremely tinted or obstructed windows) However, it is MY responsibility (as the officer) to drive my emergency vehicle SAFELY, especially at intersections where I have a red light, and the other drivers have the green.
You will have to make the case to the judge (witnesses are VERY helpful, if there were any) that you were driving legally, showing due caution, and obeying all laws. The officer cited you for the wrong crime (so you are NOT guilty of THAT infraction at all), However, should the judge find that you WERE guilty of those other things ( unable to see lights due to obstructed windows, unable to hear the siren due to loud music or headphones, reckless disregard for others safety, etc), he can find you guilty of the traffic infraction that you DID commit, even though the officer did not cite for that.|||Clearly you should have been charged under second section. That is a clerical error and will not make the case void. You will need to present evidence that the officer violated (b).
Photographs of the area taken about the same time off day as the accident should help.|||Yes definitely If you Gotta good lawyer and these days The more tickets a cop hands out the better he gets paid check with your DMV
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Dog on long leash is like being off leash to the law, what can I do?
so there's suddenly a new leash law in my town, leashes longer than 10 feet supposedly count as the dog being off leash. this does not make sense to me, a leash no matter how long is a leash.
I train in a big field at park close to me, use a long leash to practice obedience/playing something. the length I have is...35-40 ft maybe...
I use a long leash to practice stay and distance commands, usually alone so I have nobody to hold her. a few days ago I'm practicing basic commands with her and we see this cop car drive into the park. I reel her in so she's not hit by the car but it stops infront of us. a officer gets out and coldly explains there was a complaint about a off leash dog? the park's leash law changed so long leashes now count as a dog that's not controlled. dog's must be on leash, but this is ridiculous because as we're talking people walk past us with their off leash dogs and nothing happens. here my dog is on a leash, not bothering anyone and WE get complaints. so it goes that you pay a fine if the leash is too long, more than 2 attempts your dog is taken from you, cannot have the dog back for 30 days. WTF? how can this make sense? it's essential for her to get exercise and training, we have nowhere else to go. :(|||I'm sorry, you might just be out of luck. You may be responsible with your dog on a longer leash but a lot of people aren't. 2 years ago my dog and I were charged by a dog on a 20ft flex leash. My dog Was dog aggressive, so he walked in a heel, on a 6ft leash attached to a halti and another leash attached to his collar (incase he slipped the halti). The lady was back around the corner when her dog saw us and charged aggressively. I ended up falling from my dog trying to protect himself (it wa winter time and we were walking over some ice) and I had to kick the other dog in the face to get him away. my dog got bit, but because of the halti, my dig wasn't able to bite him back.
Most people are not in control of their dog if they are that far away. Almost all counties have off leash dog parks unless you live in the country. I find it hard to believe that you can't find a better one to go to. If you want, message me what town you live in and I will help you look for a better place to go.
Blame the irresponsible pet owners that made this change nessissary. Sorry :(|||What can you do? Obey the law, that's what you do.
Find another park, or consider an indoor alternative.
Or better yet, just keep complaining about how unfair it is to you, and forget everyone else. Keep complaining until someone listens, and changes the rules just to keep you happy.|||And your absolutly correct, i use long leashes to train my dog as well and to get his exercise. As long as your sure your not bother anyone else with your dog, go to your local cop or city building and ask them what to do.
This does seem really weird though!
Good luck! =)|||What can you do? You have NO choice but to obey the new laws in your city.|||In NYC we also have a leash law that requires dog to be on a leash 6ft and no longer. What this is in response to are the idiots who walks their out of control dogs on flexi leashes.
I can not count how many times I personally, have encountered some dogs coming around the corner with the moron owner 15 feet behind them.
Now, I think that flexi's and long lines have a purpose, I myself have put a young dog on a long line in the park, though technically, I know by doing this, I can get ticketed.
If it was me, I would have pointed out the person with the off-leash dog to the cop.
edit: I have never used a long line longer than 15 feet. I have never used a 35-40 foot leash in my local park, I could see how a leash that long can be problematic and no matter how hard you try, with a leash that long, you simply can't real in a dog that quickly.|||As with most things, the few bad apples ruin it for the rest of us. However, it sounds as if the cop who approached you was not "cold", but actually very reasonable...you didn't say anything about having to pay a fine, so did he let you off with just a warning? Doesn't sound cold to me at all.....and in fact, for all you know, the cop disagrees with the law, but he is bound to enforce it, especially when complaints are made.
"the leash may be long but we're always far away from people, always on the edge of the park you have to walk 50 feet to get to us"
Fifty feet isn't very far at all. It's not your private park. Again, it sounds as if you weren't causing problems, but we all know of jerks who let their dogs who let their dogs run up to people and bother them.
And sorry, I don't buy your argument that you have nowhere else to train. Surely there is a neighbor within a couple of blocks of you who has at least a 50 foot yard, and you could get their permission to train in their yard (maybe offer to mow the lawn or something in return). And if your town truly has only 1 park, then it must be a very tiny town...buy a bike, and bike outside of city limits to train your dog.|||"we see this cop car drive into the park. I reel her in so she's not hit by the car but it stops infront of us." If she was out far enough that she could have been hit then she was NOT under your control and I really can understand why the cop stopped you.
Other people doing wrong doesn't justify you doing wrong and complaining about the cop not stopping in the middle of their lecture of YOU to go bust someone else just makes you look like a child.|||Oh absolutely weird. Have you done any postings (facebook) or perhaps talking to people that go into pet stores or to obedience school trainers? When I worked as an assistant at a dog training school in our city, we used long lines all the time to proof the dog's lessons. I think you may have to do some signature collections and get that law changed. That is just wrong.|||that is messed up ... even the extend-a-leashes are longer than 10 feet !!! and everyone who trains recall with distractions uses a long leash ... if it were me i would write to the city ... i would write to a city council person ... and i would contact any and all dog groups to see if you can gain support to fight this ridiculous law ... you might even start a petition online ... because those new "laws" are pretty offensive ... i mean taking someones dog away cuz they bought a perfectly LEGAL leash is not right ...|||A dog that's on a 10'+ lead is NOT under your control, which is the issue. Practice recall and obedience on your own property. If you get cited twice for breaking the leash law that you're now aware of, whose fault would it be if your dog is taken away? I'm sure there are other municipalities with no, or less strict leash laws, so you might consider moving to one of them
I train in a big field at park close to me, use a long leash to practice obedience/playing something. the length I have is...35-40 ft maybe...
I use a long leash to practice stay and distance commands, usually alone so I have nobody to hold her. a few days ago I'm practicing basic commands with her and we see this cop car drive into the park. I reel her in so she's not hit by the car but it stops infront of us. a officer gets out and coldly explains there was a complaint about a off leash dog? the park's leash law changed so long leashes now count as a dog that's not controlled. dog's must be on leash, but this is ridiculous because as we're talking people walk past us with their off leash dogs and nothing happens. here my dog is on a leash, not bothering anyone and WE get complaints. so it goes that you pay a fine if the leash is too long, more than 2 attempts your dog is taken from you, cannot have the dog back for 30 days. WTF? how can this make sense? it's essential for her to get exercise and training, we have nowhere else to go. :(|||I'm sorry, you might just be out of luck. You may be responsible with your dog on a longer leash but a lot of people aren't. 2 years ago my dog and I were charged by a dog on a 20ft flex leash. My dog Was dog aggressive, so he walked in a heel, on a 6ft leash attached to a halti and another leash attached to his collar (incase he slipped the halti). The lady was back around the corner when her dog saw us and charged aggressively. I ended up falling from my dog trying to protect himself (it wa winter time and we were walking over some ice) and I had to kick the other dog in the face to get him away. my dog got bit, but because of the halti, my dig wasn't able to bite him back.
Most people are not in control of their dog if they are that far away. Almost all counties have off leash dog parks unless you live in the country. I find it hard to believe that you can't find a better one to go to. If you want, message me what town you live in and I will help you look for a better place to go.
Blame the irresponsible pet owners that made this change nessissary. Sorry :(|||What can you do? Obey the law, that's what you do.
Find another park, or consider an indoor alternative.
Or better yet, just keep complaining about how unfair it is to you, and forget everyone else. Keep complaining until someone listens, and changes the rules just to keep you happy.|||And your absolutly correct, i use long leashes to train my dog as well and to get his exercise. As long as your sure your not bother anyone else with your dog, go to your local cop or city building and ask them what to do.
This does seem really weird though!
Good luck! =)|||What can you do? You have NO choice but to obey the new laws in your city.|||In NYC we also have a leash law that requires dog to be on a leash 6ft and no longer. What this is in response to are the idiots who walks their out of control dogs on flexi leashes.
I can not count how many times I personally, have encountered some dogs coming around the corner with the moron owner 15 feet behind them.
Now, I think that flexi's and long lines have a purpose, I myself have put a young dog on a long line in the park, though technically, I know by doing this, I can get ticketed.
If it was me, I would have pointed out the person with the off-leash dog to the cop.
edit: I have never used a long line longer than 15 feet. I have never used a 35-40 foot leash in my local park, I could see how a leash that long can be problematic and no matter how hard you try, with a leash that long, you simply can't real in a dog that quickly.|||As with most things, the few bad apples ruin it for the rest of us. However, it sounds as if the cop who approached you was not "cold", but actually very reasonable...you didn't say anything about having to pay a fine, so did he let you off with just a warning? Doesn't sound cold to me at all.....and in fact, for all you know, the cop disagrees with the law, but he is bound to enforce it, especially when complaints are made.
"the leash may be long but we're always far away from people, always on the edge of the park you have to walk 50 feet to get to us"
Fifty feet isn't very far at all. It's not your private park. Again, it sounds as if you weren't causing problems, but we all know of jerks who let their dogs who let their dogs run up to people and bother them.
And sorry, I don't buy your argument that you have nowhere else to train. Surely there is a neighbor within a couple of blocks of you who has at least a 50 foot yard, and you could get their permission to train in their yard (maybe offer to mow the lawn or something in return). And if your town truly has only 1 park, then it must be a very tiny town...buy a bike, and bike outside of city limits to train your dog.|||"we see this cop car drive into the park. I reel her in so she's not hit by the car but it stops infront of us." If she was out far enough that she could have been hit then she was NOT under your control and I really can understand why the cop stopped you.
Other people doing wrong doesn't justify you doing wrong and complaining about the cop not stopping in the middle of their lecture of YOU to go bust someone else just makes you look like a child.|||Oh absolutely weird. Have you done any postings (facebook) or perhaps talking to people that go into pet stores or to obedience school trainers? When I worked as an assistant at a dog training school in our city, we used long lines all the time to proof the dog's lessons. I think you may have to do some signature collections and get that law changed. That is just wrong.|||that is messed up ... even the extend-a-leashes are longer than 10 feet !!! and everyone who trains recall with distractions uses a long leash ... if it were me i would write to the city ... i would write to a city council person ... and i would contact any and all dog groups to see if you can gain support to fight this ridiculous law ... you might even start a petition online ... because those new "laws" are pretty offensive ... i mean taking someones dog away cuz they bought a perfectly LEGAL leash is not right ...|||A dog that's on a 10'+ lead is NOT under your control, which is the issue. Practice recall and obedience on your own property. If you get cited twice for breaking the leash law that you're now aware of, whose fault would it be if your dog is taken away? I'm sure there are other municipalities with no, or less strict leash laws, so you might consider moving to one of them
What did I do wrong? sorry, I just lost my emotional control....?
this is long. i have to say. sorry....
So I know I'm not the best of guys. I'm smart, fairly well-off, not too bad-looking, not too boring, a bit unusual (put my foot in my mouth often) but nothing bad....
anyway, there's this girl. with a long distance boyfriend. at the time (and even now), i'm not exactly sure where they stand, but they look good together imho.
so when i first met her a few months ago at an art museum, things seemed to go very well. a week later, we're talking, and she invites me to a concert...then invite her to surfing...exchange after exchange (fails) since our schedules are opposite.
Since she's new and social, was she just being friendly?
...but finally, I get a time with her on "Sunday. No more rainchecks," and she says, "Ok but I get to decide where." We have a good time at the house party, although it's difficult to talk with her personally..(lots of girls around me), but at the very end, she just mentions her long distance boyfriend, and by that time, I'm tired and frustrated for trying to talk with her, and I've been there and I don't want to be hurt, so I just say, "well I'm done here" and about to leave...she says, "I'll walk you out," but I cut her off with, "You don't need to walk me out."
so I felt like an asshole; drove back, said thanks over cell phone, tried inviting her to coffee....anyway, a few weeks pass, we're still exchanging some texts, so we're at lunch now. and for w/e reason, she wants to have lunch with me (texting me at 130 am), but she'll try to put other guys in it. i try to have a 1-on-1 conversation with her, but it's just no good.
so another week passes by, and i'm about to just give up, so i'm like, "F-it. i'll jsut ask her to the movies." ...she says she's going out with friends....but the next day, she texts me if I'd like a ride to the airport (out of the blue).
so imean, taht's a good sign, right? i mean, if you didn't like someone, would you text them like that?
to cut to the chase, we ended not meeting up (forgot cell phone w/e), but I asked if she'd like to be picked up, said yes, picked her up at the gate, had breakfast, laughed, joked, lingered around her apartment,
and that entire week, text volume is skyrocketing.
thursday we're texting...and then I ask if she wants to walk back to the parking lot. she says, "go home silly," ...i push some more, and she says, "sorry dude. don't wanna. g'night."
next day i ask her what's wrong, and she says, "hanging out with you is stressful and uncomfortable. leave me be!" I think she's joking so I make a joke, she says, "leave me alone."
it's been about a week, and i have left her alone. most of the time, when I'm not stressed, i'm confident. now, did i do something wrong? did i misinterpret her actions? was she just trying to be friendly but didn't know how to say no? am i trying to shoot too high here?
normally i don't give a d*mn, but i thought she was the right person.
people have said the following:
(a) she's psycho. don't go there.
(b) leave her alone. you're psycho (but she started it!)
(c) she's confused. she has a long distance boyfriend. she doens't want to cheat, but she knows you like her now and she knows she may like you too...
(d) you totally misinterpreted all her text messages and invites.
which is it!?!? sorry for the rant. so ready for 2009.
yes, i know she had a boyfriend, and i wouldn't have expected anything, but she started this entire mess (and i guess ended it)....|||Sounds like she just wanted to be friends but you had expectations and were a little impatient and pushy. Let it go, it isnt worth stressing over.|||She could like you, but you have to understand she still has boyfriend away from home.
so you have to respect her for that.
she seems like a good girl, if i was you i wouldnt putt all my hope on her because she is with this guy.
Be a good friend, let her come to you.|||I would go with answer C).
Sounds like she's confused, or it could be D) you totally misinterpreted her text and invites....but I don't think so, I think that people are pretty good at sensing an attraction towards them from someone else.
I definately think that you should let it go though, because for whatever reason she isn't ready to move on to someone new, and your gonna continue to be disappointed and frustrated with the mixed signals.
It's not you, she's just not ready and there's nothing that you can do but invest in someone that is.
So I know I'm not the best of guys. I'm smart, fairly well-off, not too bad-looking, not too boring, a bit unusual (put my foot in my mouth often) but nothing bad....
anyway, there's this girl. with a long distance boyfriend. at the time (and even now), i'm not exactly sure where they stand, but they look good together imho.
so when i first met her a few months ago at an art museum, things seemed to go very well. a week later, we're talking, and she invites me to a concert...then invite her to surfing...exchange after exchange (fails) since our schedules are opposite.
Since she's new and social, was she just being friendly?
...but finally, I get a time with her on "Sunday. No more rainchecks," and she says, "Ok but I get to decide where." We have a good time at the house party, although it's difficult to talk with her personally..(lots of girls around me), but at the very end, she just mentions her long distance boyfriend, and by that time, I'm tired and frustrated for trying to talk with her, and I've been there and I don't want to be hurt, so I just say, "well I'm done here" and about to leave...she says, "I'll walk you out," but I cut her off with, "You don't need to walk me out."
so I felt like an asshole; drove back, said thanks over cell phone, tried inviting her to coffee....anyway, a few weeks pass, we're still exchanging some texts, so we're at lunch now. and for w/e reason, she wants to have lunch with me (texting me at 130 am), but she'll try to put other guys in it. i try to have a 1-on-1 conversation with her, but it's just no good.
so another week passes by, and i'm about to just give up, so i'm like, "F-it. i'll jsut ask her to the movies." ...she says she's going out with friends....but the next day, she texts me if I'd like a ride to the airport (out of the blue).
so imean, taht's a good sign, right? i mean, if you didn't like someone, would you text them like that?
to cut to the chase, we ended not meeting up (forgot cell phone w/e), but I asked if she'd like to be picked up, said yes, picked her up at the gate, had breakfast, laughed, joked, lingered around her apartment,
and that entire week, text volume is skyrocketing.
thursday we're texting...and then I ask if she wants to walk back to the parking lot. she says, "go home silly," ...i push some more, and she says, "sorry dude. don't wanna. g'night."
next day i ask her what's wrong, and she says, "hanging out with you is stressful and uncomfortable. leave me be!" I think she's joking so I make a joke, she says, "leave me alone."
it's been about a week, and i have left her alone. most of the time, when I'm not stressed, i'm confident. now, did i do something wrong? did i misinterpret her actions? was she just trying to be friendly but didn't know how to say no? am i trying to shoot too high here?
normally i don't give a d*mn, but i thought she was the right person.
people have said the following:
(a) she's psycho. don't go there.
(b) leave her alone. you're psycho (but she started it!)
(c) she's confused. she has a long distance boyfriend. she doens't want to cheat, but she knows you like her now and she knows she may like you too...
(d) you totally misinterpreted all her text messages and invites.
which is it!?!? sorry for the rant. so ready for 2009.
yes, i know she had a boyfriend, and i wouldn't have expected anything, but she started this entire mess (and i guess ended it)....|||Sounds like she just wanted to be friends but you had expectations and were a little impatient and pushy. Let it go, it isnt worth stressing over.|||She could like you, but you have to understand she still has boyfriend away from home.
so you have to respect her for that.
she seems like a good girl, if i was you i wouldnt putt all my hope on her because she is with this guy.
Be a good friend, let her come to you.|||I would go with answer C).
Sounds like she's confused, or it could be D) you totally misinterpreted her text and invites....but I don't think so, I think that people are pretty good at sensing an attraction towards them from someone else.
I definately think that you should let it go though, because for whatever reason she isn't ready to move on to someone new, and your gonna continue to be disappointed and frustrated with the mixed signals.
It's not you, she's just not ready and there's nothing that you can do but invest in someone that is.
Help! drivers ed! 75 questions and stuck on a few! helP!?
16. Although, as a driver, you must always be watching for pedestrians crossing your path, pedestrians SHOULD walk (1 point)
on the far left side of the road.
facing traffic.
with the flow of traffic.
on the yellow line.
17. Using your turn signals indicates which kind of roadway communication? (1 point)
intentions
warnings
presence
feedback
18. Most of the time at complex intersections, left turn lanes are controlled by (1 point)
a stop sign.
a left-turn arrow sign.
a green left-turn signal.
a police officer.
19. Interchanges are (1 point)
toll roads.
where toll roads cross.
where one major freeway crosses another road.
where one major freeway crosses another road.
20. The following vehicles have the right-of-way at a roundabout: (1 point)
vehicles approaching the roundabout.
vehicles in the circulating lanes.
only vehicles in the left circulating lane of the roundabout.
only vehicles in the right circulating lane of the roundabout.
21. Lower traffic interchanges without special constraints usually use (1 point)
cloverleaf interchanges.
diamond interchanges.
trumpet interchanges.
toll interchanges.
22. Good drivers interact safely with different types of traffic by (1 point)
being alert to the possible actions of others.
driving quickly to avoid danger.
staying close to all other traffic.
covering their brakes.
23. Ground viewing is (1 point)
looking at the road in front of your vehicle.
searching beneath parked cars for signs of movement.
looking at the fields of a farm.
looking to the left side of the road.
24. The problem of animals on the roadway is particularly serious from (1 point)
6 PM to 10 PM.
6 AM to 10 AM.
sunset to sunrise.
sunrise to sunset.
25. To make cyclists and motorcyclists aware of your intentions, you should (1 point)
brake lightly.
tell them.
signal well in advance.
honk.
26. When driving a smaller, less powerful car, you should (1 point)
be sure to stay close to other small cars.
allow yourself extra time and space to pass another vehicle.
speed up to gather momentum to climb hills.
weave in order to see around cars in front.
27. Because they sit up high, truck drivers have excellent visibility (1 point)
ahead.
to the side.
to the back.
underneath cars in front.
28. Light trucks are different than cars because they (1 point)
are lighter.
are smaller.
are heavier.
take less distance to stop.
29. Complex intersections (1 point)
are where two major roadways cross paths.
are the same things as roundabouts.
are not usually a site for vehicle collisions.
are important to pedestrians.
30. When managing visibility at an intersection, you should scan for (1 point)
signs, pedestrians, and other vehicles.
store fronts.
police officers.
complex intersections.
31. When sharing the road with a large vehicle, such as an 80,000-lb truck, (1 point)
you will not need as much time to pass the truck as you would need passing another smaller vehicle.
you will notice that the larger vehicle is easier to maneuver.
you will notice the vehicle's braking distance is much less than a car's.
you should increase your following distance.
32. An 80,000-lb truck's braking distance is typically _____ the distance of a car's. (1 point)
half
twice
four times
five times
33. Drivers should allow a minimum of ____ feet of space when passing a cyclist. (1 point)
1
3
6
10
34. The visibility and handling factors that apply to trucks also apply to (1 point)
motorcycles.
pickups.
small cars.
buses.|||a few, that's half, all common sense questions read the book you'll never know if someone else does it for you and you will get into an accident because" you didn't know" then you will come on to answers and ask why this happened.
on the far left side of the road.
facing traffic.
with the flow of traffic.
on the yellow line.
17. Using your turn signals indicates which kind of roadway communication? (1 point)
intentions
warnings
presence
feedback
18. Most of the time at complex intersections, left turn lanes are controlled by (1 point)
a stop sign.
a left-turn arrow sign.
a green left-turn signal.
a police officer.
19. Interchanges are (1 point)
toll roads.
where toll roads cross.
where one major freeway crosses another road.
where one major freeway crosses another road.
20. The following vehicles have the right-of-way at a roundabout: (1 point)
vehicles approaching the roundabout.
vehicles in the circulating lanes.
only vehicles in the left circulating lane of the roundabout.
only vehicles in the right circulating lane of the roundabout.
21. Lower traffic interchanges without special constraints usually use (1 point)
cloverleaf interchanges.
diamond interchanges.
trumpet interchanges.
toll interchanges.
22. Good drivers interact safely with different types of traffic by (1 point)
being alert to the possible actions of others.
driving quickly to avoid danger.
staying close to all other traffic.
covering their brakes.
23. Ground viewing is (1 point)
looking at the road in front of your vehicle.
searching beneath parked cars for signs of movement.
looking at the fields of a farm.
looking to the left side of the road.
24. The problem of animals on the roadway is particularly serious from (1 point)
6 PM to 10 PM.
6 AM to 10 AM.
sunset to sunrise.
sunrise to sunset.
25. To make cyclists and motorcyclists aware of your intentions, you should (1 point)
brake lightly.
tell them.
signal well in advance.
honk.
26. When driving a smaller, less powerful car, you should (1 point)
be sure to stay close to other small cars.
allow yourself extra time and space to pass another vehicle.
speed up to gather momentum to climb hills.
weave in order to see around cars in front.
27. Because they sit up high, truck drivers have excellent visibility (1 point)
ahead.
to the side.
to the back.
underneath cars in front.
28. Light trucks are different than cars because they (1 point)
are lighter.
are smaller.
are heavier.
take less distance to stop.
29. Complex intersections (1 point)
are where two major roadways cross paths.
are the same things as roundabouts.
are not usually a site for vehicle collisions.
are important to pedestrians.
30. When managing visibility at an intersection, you should scan for (1 point)
signs, pedestrians, and other vehicles.
store fronts.
police officers.
complex intersections.
31. When sharing the road with a large vehicle, such as an 80,000-lb truck, (1 point)
you will not need as much time to pass the truck as you would need passing another smaller vehicle.
you will notice that the larger vehicle is easier to maneuver.
you will notice the vehicle's braking distance is much less than a car's.
you should increase your following distance.
32. An 80,000-lb truck's braking distance is typically _____ the distance of a car's. (1 point)
half
twice
four times
five times
33. Drivers should allow a minimum of ____ feet of space when passing a cyclist. (1 point)
1
3
6
10
34. The visibility and handling factors that apply to trucks also apply to (1 point)
motorcycles.
pickups.
small cars.
buses.|||a few, that's half, all common sense questions read the book you'll never know if someone else does it for you and you will get into an accident because" you didn't know" then you will come on to answers and ask why this happened.
When did you overcome the fear of driving?
hello to everyone.
I'm turning 19 next month and I've had my driver's license for almost a year.
I start college next week, and it takes me about 20-30 minutes to get there every day.
I haven't really driven far distances before, and even though I have already practiced driving there, and somewhat feel in control, I'm terrified of doing something wrong or crashing into someone. (drive a ban)
I hate when I feel like I'm in control but end up making a stupid mistake, for example today a tall truck parked right next to the stop sign, and since he blocked my view I didn't see it and didn't make the stop, the guy yelled at me.
What can I do to just grow my balls and do what I have to do?
thanks|||Be the better man. Act like you own the driving on which you're driving. You're the boss and everyone should damn well know better than to mess with you.|||I haven't, but I drive in such a way that it puts fear in me all the time.|||never had fear of driving|||you controll the car remember that|||... you afraid of driving?
I'm turning 19 next month and I've had my driver's license for almost a year.
I start college next week, and it takes me about 20-30 minutes to get there every day.
I haven't really driven far distances before, and even though I have already practiced driving there, and somewhat feel in control, I'm terrified of doing something wrong or crashing into someone. (drive a ban)
I hate when I feel like I'm in control but end up making a stupid mistake, for example today a tall truck parked right next to the stop sign, and since he blocked my view I didn't see it and didn't make the stop, the guy yelled at me.
What can I do to just grow my balls and do what I have to do?
thanks|||Be the better man. Act like you own the driving on which you're driving. You're the boss and everyone should damn well know better than to mess with you.|||I haven't, but I drive in such a way that it puts fear in me all the time.|||never had fear of driving|||you controll the car remember that|||... you afraid of driving?
Help me pls!!!........................…
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: “Why should he have all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn’t seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window – and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence – deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away – no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
(?) Please help me to tell the moral of the story... :)
Tks much..|||Happiness is a positive attitude and kindness to others.
The upright man had a crap life, but chose to look on the bright side and not only look positively upon the world via his imagination, but enriched the life of his room mate.|||That some people will do absolutely anything to get what the want.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: “Why should he have all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn’t seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window – and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence – deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away – no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
(?) Please help me to tell the moral of the story... :)
Tks much..|||Happiness is a positive attitude and kindness to others.
The upright man had a crap life, but chose to look on the bright side and not only look positively upon the world via his imagination, but enriched the life of his room mate.|||That some people will do absolutely anything to get what the want.
This is a cool story?
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour a day to drain the fluids from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
Moral of the story:
The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.
The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about.|||Hey :)
I've read this story before, but it's nice to read it again :) i liked it a lot, the moral of the story is so true.
They also have this on tangle called the Hospital Window... Just if you wanted to watch it... :D
http://www.tangle.com/view_video?viewkey鈥?/a>|||I like that story very much. :) It has an interesting ending and a good lesson.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed next to the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed would live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the outside world. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake, the man had said. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Lovers walked arm in arm amid flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Unexpectedly, an alien thought entered his head: Why should hehave all the pleasure of seeing everything while I never get to see anything? It didn't seem fair. As the thought fermented, the man felt ashamed at first. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - and that thought now controlled his life.
Late one night, as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room, he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running. In less than five minutes, the coughing and choking stopped, along with the sound of breathing. Now, there was only silence--deathly silence.
The following morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendant to take it away--no words, no fuss. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.
Moral of the story:
The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.
The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about.|||Hey :)
I've read this story before, but it's nice to read it again :) i liked it a lot, the moral of the story is so true.
They also have this on tangle called the Hospital Window... Just if you wanted to watch it... :D
http://www.tangle.com/view_video?viewkey鈥?/a>|||I like that story very much. :) It has an interesting ending and a good lesson.
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