What did I do wrong? sorry, i just lost my emotional control...?

this is long. i have to say. sorry....





So I know I'm not the best of guys. I'm smart, fairly well-off, not too bad-looking, not too boring, a bit unusual (put my foot in my mouth often) but nothing bad....





anyway, there's this girl. with a long distance boyfriend. at the time (and even now), i'm not exactly sure where they stand, but they look good together imho.





so when i first met her a few months ago at an art museum, things seemed to go very well. a week later, we're talking, and she invites me to a concert...then invite her to surfing...exchange after exchange (fails) since our schedules are opposite.





Since she's new and social, was she just being friendly?





...but finally, I get a time with her on "Sunday. No more rainchecks," and she says, "Ok but I get to decide where." We have a good time at the house party, although it's difficult to talk with her personally..(lots of girls around me), but at the very end, she just mentions her long distance boyfriend, and by that time, I'm tired and frustrated for trying to talk with her, and I've been there and I don't want to be hurt, so I just say, "well I'm done here" and about to leave...she says, "I'll walk you out," but I cut her off with, "You don't need to walk me out."





so I felt like an asshole; drove back, said thanks over cell phone, tried inviting her to coffee....anyway, a few weeks pass, we're still exchanging some texts, so we're at lunch now. and for w/e reason, she wants to have lunch with me (texting me at 130 am), but she'll try to put other guys in it. i try to have a 1-on-1 conversation with her, but it's just no good.





so another week passes by, and i'm about to just give up, so i'm like, "F-it. i'll jsut ask her to the movies." ...she says she's going out with friends....but the next day, she texts me if I'd like a ride to the airport (out of the blue).





so imean, taht's a good sign, right? i mean, if you didn't like someone, would you text them like that?





to cut to the chase, we ended not meeting up (forgot cell phone w/e), but I asked if she'd like to be picked up, said yes, picked her up at the gate, had breakfast, laughed, joked, lingered around her apartment,


and that entire week, text volume is skyrocketing.





thursday we're texting...and then I ask if she wants to walk back to the parking lot. she says, "go home silly," ...i push some more, and she says, "sorry dude. don't wanna. g'night."





next day i ask her what's wrong, and she says, "hanging out with you is stressful and uncomfortable. leave me be!" I think she's joking so I make a joke, she says, "leave me alone."





it's been about a week, and i have left her alone. most of the time, when I'm not stressed, i'm confident. now, did i do something wrong? did i misinterpret her actions? was she just trying to be friendly but didn't know how to say no? am i trying to shoot too high here?





normally i don't give a d*mn, but i thought she was the right person.


people have said the following:


(a) she's psycho. don't go there.


(b) leave her alone. you're psycho (but she started it!)


(c) she's confused. she has a long distance boyfriend. she doens't want to cheat, but she knows you like her now and she knows she may like you too...


(d) you totally misinterpreted all her text messages and invites.





which is it!?!? sorry for the rant.|||I'd go with B......|||I think (c) is your right answer.but really you you love her ,see and take time.|||you should probably let her be (even if ur interested)!! otherwise you might end up looking needy.take a raincheck for the next few times SHE asks u out (a party or a movie excuse - somewhere there would be a possibility to have girls around, but don't offer that information). like the prev poster said, she's probably checking out her options and feels guilty about the long dist BF.


HTH|||Wow. That sucks, and sounds so incredibly awkward. I am leaning towards (a), but I guess it depends on just what you mean by "I push some more." If you were being overly persistent about walking through a parking lot at night with her, I can see why she'd be kind of uncomfortable. However, if it was done in a light, joking way than I'd say she is overreacting. Either way, she's in a relationship, so what are you even bothering for? If she cheats on one she'll cheat on another.|||I would say based on everything that you've described, she is both a and c. A, because it is really rude of her to constantly text you, invite you to hang out, hang out and act all friendly around you, then do a 180 and act like a complete *****. She may have been leading you on, which is just ridiculous.


C because she is afraid that you like her, she likes you, you have a good time together alone and now she feels like she may have cheated on her boyfriend (even though nothing has happened physically). That also seems like the reason she only invites you to certain places she likes to go and invites others to tag along. She is afraid of being alone with you because of what might happened, and she doesn't want to do that to her long-distance boyfriend.


I'd say just follow the advice of others who have told you to leave this girl alone until she decides what she wants. If she texts you again then ask her to explain the strange behavior. Chances are that if she and her boyfriend break up she will come back and try being friendly with you. Just make sure you don't put yourself into the situation where she can take advantage of you and then turn into a ***** again. Be careful.|||she likes to toy with you and guys in general. the long distance thing is probably for a reason or a figment of her imagination to keep guys guessing and coming back. stupid game, waste of time. let her be , Alone that is, she could take years to come around, but, has to know herself first. If she can break through that shallow behavior. Move on, there is someone kinder than her. Don't be so quick to say she's the one. the one to walk away from.